Hello again! I hope everyone’s November is going as smoothly as it can. I know November is a stressful and packed time for a lot of us and it can get overwhelming. I’m here to write a lighthearted piece on the idea of chasing what we don’t have and why it is great to have goals, but why it’s also so important to love and be grateful for all that you are and have.
I always hear people with curly hair say “wow, I wish I had straighter hair” or people with straight hair say “it would be so cool to have curly hair.” Bigger breasted girls wishing for smaller breasts and vice versa. People constantly wishing they had a different eye colour than what they have. I am even guilty of these! My question is: why can’t we just be happy and content with what we have? My tentative conclusion is that it is human instinct. I believe that if we aren’t totally happy with ourselves, we will accompany that with chasing after what we don’t have. I believe we do this because if we don’t fully love ourselves then we automatically think that any characteristic we don’t have is superior. In response to that, we chase them.
Let’s take a step back and take a look at goals. Goals are a really amazing thing to have. They motivate us, they inspire us and most of all they push us. Let’s take a look at S.M.A.R.T. goals. Goals need to be specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time-based. Having smart and healthy goals is a great way to keep you in line and motivated. It keeps you working towards something that you want. Looking at the big picture, you will never get to the destination without enduring the journey along with it. The journey may be difficult, but the harder you work means you will be even more appreciative of the goals you reach in the end.
The biggest point with the conversation we are having here is setting realistic goals. You can set any goal for yourself in the world. However, you have to ask yourself if the goal is realistic. Is it actually naturally possible for you to attain this goal? You can’t change who you naturally are. You can’t change your natural eye colour, you can’t change your natural breast shape or size and you can’t change your natural hair texture. However, you can change your mindset about your own characteristics.
