You wave as your parents drive off, leaving you alone. There’s a long silence as you think about what to do next, because, for the first time in 18 years, you’re in charge of your own life. Trading home for college can be a very maturing, yet lonely experience. On one hand, you finally have independence and on the other, you’ve left the comfort of your home behind. This can be a daunting time for anyone, so here are four ways to help ease your loneliness.
- Try Joining a Club or a Sport
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This can help you become involved in your school and it opens you up to a group of people who have the same interests as you do. When you are passionate about something, and you’re around others that have the same passions as you, this can create a feeling of camaraderie. This also opens you up to individuals who can become your friends and make life a little more enjoyable while you’re at school.
- Adopt a Pet or Volunteer at an Animal Shelter
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If you’re able to have a pet in your dorm or apartment, do it. Having a pet can make your life a little less lonely because you’ll have a constant companion. Pets are great friends because they love unconditionally. If it’s difficult for you to take care of a pet, try volunteering at an animal shelter instead. You’re able to play and be around animals without the worry of taking care of them while juggling schoolwork. The Mayo Clinic reports that having a pet can help reduce pain and anxiety. Having a pet allows you to have a built-in friend and someone you can always rely on.
- Clean Your Area
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Being productive can give you a purpose. Having a task to complete, like cleaning can help put you in a better mood and leave you feeling accomplished. Being able to physically see a difference that you’ve made can have a large effect on your peace of mind. When you have a clean space, you have a clean mind to think. Researchers Stephanie McMain and Sabine Kastner from Princeton University conducted a study on clutter and its effects on people. Findings concluded that mess makes it more difficult for someone to focus on a task.
- Try listening to music or singing
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Listening to music that you enjoy can help alleviate sad feelings. According to researcher Elizabeth Stegemöller at Iowa State University, one hour of singing with a group can help reduce the stress hormone Cortisol.
It’s always difficult when you’re thrust into a new situation or place. Don’t be afraid to make friends or try something new to help put yourself out there. If you’re feeling lonely, or if it becomes overwhelming, try talking to a friend or a professional. Everyone feels lonely now and then and it’s important to know that you’re not alone.