Sometimes, even when I feel really good about myself, there’s that small voice in my head saying I’m not good enough. The self-doubt starts to tell me that I don’t deserve it, and then I begin to create mental barriers. I just feel like I’m not going to become who I want to be because I can’t reach it. I often wonder if all people are confident about themselves. However, I don’t think that’s the case. No matter what people like to present, I believe that we all have a little self-doubt. Sometimes we show what we like to be seen as, even if we don’t feel that way.
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I’ve had friends like me who sometimes experience the harm of self-doubt. I had a chat with them about this topic, and we decided to collectively abandon our self-doubts and try our best to feel good about ourselves. We’ve tried many ways to do so, and some of them actually worked, so I’d like to share them with you guys!
Focus on your strengths
I had a lot of self-doubts because I spent a lot of time thinking about how I can change to reach the goals that I set for myself. The more I thought about that, the less confident I felt about myself because I’d forget all my strengths and focus on how imperfect I was at the moment.
Stop overthinking the future
Sometimes when I start to think about how I didn’t do much in a day, I’d feel that I wasted my time and consequently, I’d fail my tests. Or if I ate more than I should for three days, I’d feel that I’d gain weight and all my efforts for working out would be ruined. We should take things day by day so that we don’t start to overthink things.
Don’t compare yourself with others
The more that people compare themselves with others, the less satisfied they will feel about their own lives, even if their lives are not bad at all. People can sometimes only see what’s on the surface, which might lead to starting to feel like they are not living a good life. But the truth is, the person you envy may not have it all together either.
Find something to boost your confidence:
Sometimes when you enter a place with a lot of people that you can compare yourself to, you need something to distract your mind from doing that and instead make you feel good. For me, music boosts my confidence. Whenever I’m listening to music, I can just focus on the melodies and lyrics instead of other people. When I’m listening to my favorite songs, I feel so confident that it’s like I’m walking the runway at a fashion show.
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These might sound like clichés, but they are actually super helpful. We can all feel that we are not good enough sometimes, but one person will never be “good enough” because there is no specific definition of what that even means. The best thing we can do is to stop doubting ourselves and start feeling that we are worthy, and that’s good enough for me.