The concept of ‘dating yourself’ may sound weird. This is true if you visualize it ending in a wedding while you wear an outfit that is half-tuxed and half-dress and you alternate sides saying wedding vows; however, whether you are single or in a relationship, dating yourself is a must. It’s an important part of self-care.
This is not to say “you are independent and you don’t need a partner.” While I know it’s tempting to constantly surround ourselves with other people, it is just as important to spend time by yourself. This is what dating one’s self is — spending time, loving, and pampering you. From experience, spending time with yourself can teach you so much. It allows for you to engage in deep self-reflection and to recognize how you can grow to become a better version of yourself. It reminds you of your worth to enssure that you will not settle for less than you deserve. Dating yourself teaches and reminds you how to love and accept yourself — key ingredients to better relationships with yourself and others.
What are some ‘Me, Myself, and I’ date ideas?
- Mini-Spa Night
On Saturday or Sunday nights, I sometimes like to do a mini-spa night. This involves lighting a vanilla-scented candle, taking a warm shower or bath, washing and styling my hair, doing a face/lip mask, and using some exfoliating products. For me, this is an effective way to unwind from the stress of the week and to just focus on myself — not classes, assignments, obligations, etc. Typically, I’ll also play some music or a ‘90s sitcom to keep on in the background. Still, there are times where I prefer the silence of only the voice in my thoughts as they pass. - Treat Yourself To Lunch
This is something I only recently, and accidently, started doing — I had an appointment to get my second COVID booster shot. I was hungry afterwards, so I decided to try a new restaurant by myself. As I sat there enjoying the ambience and the tasty food, I realized that it was quite nice to eat by myself. I know some people dread eating in silence, but this can be an excellent opportunity for self reflection — and to get dressed up! - Journal
Journaling has become a part of my daily routine. I decided to start journaling because I wanted to learn more about myself and to grow. Journaling did this an more. Engaging with my thoughts helped me to identify the things that bothered me as well as the trivial things. It also helps me on my continuing journey of self-love as I write daily affirmations. To spice this idea up, you can journal in different locations from calming scenaries to busy coffee shops.
Doing things and spending time with yourself can be some of the most empowering experiences you will ever have. If you are single and wanting to find the perfect partner, dating yourself can be prepare you for a relationship by teaching you about yourself. If you are single and wanting to stay that way, dating yourself can give you moments of peace during your week. If you are in a relationship, dating yourself can continue to help you learn about yourself. Learning and loving yourself is a journey that never ends as you are constantly growing and changing.