Post Heartbreak: Maintaining a Healthy Heart, Mind, & Soul

Experiencing a heavy heartbreak can be one of the most grief-stricken experiences. It’s as if all the effort, happy moments, laughter, trust, and most of all, love has all turned to dust. It feels like there’s nothing you can do to help yourself heal, but the truth is, you don’t have to feel this hurt forever. The pain that you may be feeling right now will soon fade, but as you’re experiencing this, there are some things you can do to help yourself recover from those wounds.

Maintaining a Healthy Heart

Nearly everyone goes back and reads those old messages or checks out their ex-partner’s social media every once in a while. Getting the thought of them out of your head will seem like you’re only losing in a battle against yourself. The thing is, from your experience think of that as something that other people including yourself can learn from. Talking about what happened with those who are close to you is a healthy way to keep your heart from hurting. For some people, you may not want to be the one to “bombard people with your problems,” but if your friends or family truly care and if they truly want what’s best for you, they’ll be more than happy to listen. Get out all the anger and sorrow, and express yourself. Venting and getting things off your chest can really help, but if your keep everything to yourself, you’ll only feel as though you’re facing this all alone when it doesn’t have to be that way.


Maintaining a Healthy Mind

The mindset you keep yourself in all depends on you. You may be feeling as though you aren’t worth very much right now, and you may or may not be blaming yourself for what happened. One of the most important things is that during this time, you have to put yourself first and strive towards finding some sort of happiness. Life doesn’t stop for anyone, and you can’t linger onto things that simply just wasn’t meant to be. Think about what is in your best interest and what will help you succeed in being a better person. As tired as some of us may be from these “learning experiences,” some things turn out the way they are because something so much better is coming along the way. Even if it seems completely out of reach, anything is possible if you have faith in yourself. Healing is not something that will all happen in one day—there’s going to be moments where you may break down as something triggers a memory, and that’s okay. It’s okay to not be okay sometimes, but this doesn’t have to be permanent. It’s up to you to grow from this and learn from it—the longer you drown in your sorrows, the harder it will be for you to breathe.


Maintaining a Healthy Soul

Heartbreak can completely alter your entire perception of relationships, their purpose, and human-kind in general. However, just because the world has not been kind to you, does not mean you should not be kind to the rest of the world. If you take out your pain and lash out on others, you’re not only hurting them, but you’re further hurting yourself and, other friendships and relationships with those who only want to see you happy. Maintaining a healthy soul means to not give up the good qualities that you have in yourself just because a person isn’t in your life anymore. Do not give them the power to take away the things that make you who you are. Your soul is like a garden--regardless of the flowers you have picked from it and gave to someone else, you can still nourish yourself and blossom into something greater.