Now that I have had the time to reflect and fully move on, here are the steps that helped me heal from my breakup:
- Block them
When my ex and I initially broke up we stayed in constant contact with each other, and I was miserable. It’s impossible to get over someone you’re still friends with. Distance doesn’t have to last forever, but it’s the best thing to do for the first few months to help you move on.
- Get rid of All painful reminders
Pictures, gifts, letters, clothes, all of it. If you really don’t want to toss it all in the trash, shove it in a drawer or closet that you will never go in. Seeing those memories around your room will only remind you of your heartbreak and hurt you even more.
- Cry it all out
Crying is healing. The best thing to do is to feel all your emotions and let it out. I spent hours crying it all away, letting myself truly feel everything and move on. Bottling up your feelings will only make the healing process longer.
The number one thing that helped me the most was writing out all my feelings. Whenever I heard new rumors about him or how he was doing, or whenever he tried to reach out, the Notes app was my best friend. I ended up writing a diary that showcased how I truly felt throughout the relationship.
Each entry was a significant event in our relationship when it started: our first Christmas together, the first bad fight, etc. I continued writing diary entries for a few months after the breakup about how my healing process was going and where I was mentally.
Reflection is so important to moving on. It helps you release all your emotions and allows you to look at and understand how you’re feeling.
- REDISCOVER YOURSELF!
Do things that make you happy or distract you. Listen to music, watch movies, hang out with friends, start a new project.
Being single is the best time to remember and explore who you are and what you like. Everything is for and about you again, so take advantage of that!
I hope this guide is useful to you no matter what stage of the healing process you’re in.