Rejection: Learning From It, Loving From It 

It’s the time of year when the rain comes down hard and so do rejections. In the midst of midterms, summer internship applications, the post-Valentine’s day cuffing (or uncuffing?) rush, and post-grad planning, so many of us are standing under a deluge of “we regret to inform you,” of “try again next year,” of “study harder for the next exam,” of “I’m already dating someone else.” 

And when it happens to us, it feels like it doesn’t happen to anyone else. 

But it does. And if it doesn’t happen to someone this season, it will happen someday. Rejection is an all-too-common and all-too-painful part of the human experience. Nothing has such a power to make you feel unworthy than the word “No.” 

But here’s the thing. 

You are not worthy of love, joy, peace, and success because you were accepted to a certain school, you got the best grade in the class, you were hired by that top firm, or that person asked you out on a date. You are worthy of love, joy, peace, and success because you are a person. You are a person who does things when it’s hard, who wants to make others happy, who loves other people, who has your own story and uniqueness. You are a person. You are worthy because you are a person. And that is enough.

I promise you that one day, you will hear the word "Yes." It will feel so amazing that you'll forget how much it hurt when you heard "No." And if that "Yes" seems so far in the future, say "Yes" to yourself. Because if there's one person who will never reject you, it's you.

So, if you're been rejected recently, take it as a sign that something better is coming. If that seems like too much of a leap for you, take it as a sign that it's time to be kind to yourself. You deserve the world. If someone or something can't see that, they are absolutely not worth it.