I’m one of those people who is just always single. I’ve never been in a steady relationship or even had a boyfriend.
Usually, when people hear this they think it’s odd that someone in their early twenties has never been in a relationship. They don’t always know what to say to me and more often than not, I’m told that I’m a “smart girl” or the “right guy is out there.”
The thing is, I don’t think of it as a weird thing, it’s just something that I don’t put a lot of focus on. I was so busy when I was a teenager with jobs and traveling and volunteering that I had almost no spare time for my friends, let alone a relationship.
Now that I’m older, when I’m talking with friends, I usually hear, “You just have to lower your standards.” I’ve actually heard that from multiple people at different times.
I don’t understand why anyone would say something like that to a friend—you are basically telling me that I think I’m too good for other people or that I should just date anyone I see.
Now, I’m not a person who goes out and actively searches for a new boyfriend just because I’m single. I have no issue with not having a boyfriend. That being said, I’m open to the idea and do not shoot down opportunities before giving them a fair shot.
I just don’t think that I should have to lower my standards because other people feel weird about me being single.
I am selective about the friends who I hold close, so why would it be any different for any guy? I don’t want to let just any guy into my life because I’m currently alone.
I’m very independent and am very happy with my life. Anyone who I let into my life has to add to it, not take away from it.
I would much rather be single and happy, than in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship.
I’m tired of people asking me why I’m single and saying that maybe I’m asking too much of other people. I don’t think I should be questioned about my standards by anyone because it is none of their business nor their concern.
Bottom line is I’m quite capable of being on my own and my standards are fine, thank you.
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