Yes, breakups really do suck! And dealing with them can be extremely hard. When you begin to think of all the fun moments you had with your old significant other and the immense amount of time you two spent together, it makes letting go so difficult.
Despite the reason you two broke up, you may juggle with various emotions that will leave you questioning whether being apart is really the best decision. In life, things often happen for a reason and usually it’s for your own good. That breakup may be heartbreaking but it also may not have been what you needed, and listed below are 3 reasons why.
1. You weren’t happy
The point of a relationship is to share joyous moments and experiences with the person you love and care about. As expected, there will always be ups and downs within a relationship, but if the bad times started to outweigh the good times for you then maybe heading to splitsville wasn’t such a bad idea. If you were unhappy in your relationship, staying with your significant other probably suddenly felt like an obligation and that’s usually a telltale sign that maybe it wasn’t meant to be in the first place.
2. He turned out to be more of a frog than a prince
Sometimes love just isn’t enough when your ex-guy turned out to be everything you would NOT want in a guy. If your relationship involved lying, cheating, disrespect, or even neglect then breaking up with him was probably the best thing for you. As cliché as it sounds, there are too many fish in the sea to be with someone who doesn’t treat you the way you want to be treated. It’s better to be single and happy than in a relationship and miserable.
3. You neglected things that were once important to you
Unfortunately, when you become immersed in a relationship you sometimes neglect things that used to be important in your life. In your relationship, everything was all about him: you took on his interests, attempted to meet every single one of his needs, and devoted all your time to him all the while forgetting about yourself and the person you were before you two got together.
Now that you aren’t with your ex anymore, you’re probably thinking “what now?” right? Think about it: You had a life before your relationship! Start hitting the gym again, spend more time with your friends and family, or focus more on your school and work. FYI: Relationships don’t exist to make you whole. Never let a relationship cause you to lose your identity. Always remain you and stay true to who you are before a relationship, during, and even after.
To put it briefly, if you and your ex were truly meant to be, you two will be. In the mean time, go out and have some fun and rediscover yourself while occupying your mind with other things. Keep in mind that your world hasn’t ended and this is only the beginning :).
HCxo