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Emotional Clutter

We all hold on to things that aren’t good, whether it be emotional or physical baggage.  How many time have you found yourself crying over the same thing over and over again? Your live moves on but you are stuck in an event that happened months ago, even years ago. 

A few years ago I went through a rough time. I had a friend who was always there. If I needed to grab ice cream at three in the morning, he’d be the one to call. He is a great, amazing person. Durning this rough time I went through, he wasn’t there. He was caught up in his own life and doing his own thing. However, I blamed him for the longest time ever. I couldn’t forgive him for not being there when I needed him the most. A couple months ago I realized that he didn’t have to be there. That he didn’t owe it to me nor should I have expected him to. Just because he wasn’t there during that time didn’t mean he wasn’t still my friend. I got hung up on my pain that I needed someone to blame, and he was who I chose. I needed to let go of that situation in order to move on with my life. I needed to declutter emotionally.

Letting go of what’s not useful anymore can set you free. Being able to leave the past in the past  isn’t only necessary, but it can help you be more emotionally stable. You see, our thoughts dictate our actions. If you feel blue, it’s likely you will stay home or become antisocial. Oh, but if you feel happy, you want to take on the world and you feel like nothing can hurt you.  Stop letting all these past emotions dictate how you live your present.

How to let go of emotional baggage? 1. Clean the area or areas you spend most of your time in. Get rid of that old sweater that sits in the back of your closet or those shoes that have accumulated more dust than your broom. Getting rid of clutter gives you a sense of cleanliness. While you’re at it, make some money out of your unneeded clutter. 2. Make alone time. Whether it be going for a weekly massage or simply taking a walk.  3. Make small changes. Wake up earlier or volunteer in your spare time.  4. Detach from social media once a week or once a month, whatever works. 5. Stop thinking about the past. Making yourself a victim of what happened to you won’t make things change. 6. Stop blaming yourself and others. It happened already, blaming someone won’t undo what’s already been done. 7. Let go! Yes! Letting it all go is a must. When you let go of the emotional baggage you have been carrying for so long, you make room for new opportunities. 

Being at peace with yourself is important. It’s easy to carry all your worries, pains and struggles around. However, this only adds more stress. You must let it go and start living. You must let go of your emotional baggage in order to set yourself free. Only then will you allow good things to happen.

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