If you’re grunting and groaning in the name of Valentine’s Day or making a performative attempt at holding your breakfast down at the sight of heart-shaped chocolates and teddy bears bigger than the little one in BOYGENIUS, it’s time to shift your thinking.
Contrary to what your ‘poor-me-i’m-so-single’ mindset may be telling you, you should be celebrating Valentine’s Day even if you’re single, and here’s why.
- love is all around us
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Isn’t it worth celebrating that love is all around us? Even if not romantically, love exists in so many other forms.
Love is in our favorite songs and the books that we reread every time the leaves begin turning orange.
Love exists in the hobbies that remind us that everything will be okay and in between the lines of poems we write about the strangers we admire from a distance.Love looks like “How was your day?” and “This song reminds me of you.”
Love can exist so simply that we might not even process it as anything other than mundane in our regular days.
Love is in the strangers that hold the door open for you and the vodka-filled girls in the club bathrooms that tell you you’re pretty.Love is the sun kissing us on the cheeks and the trees dancing at the gift of the wind.
The concept of love when it comes to Valentine’s Day has been tainted by a capitalist agenda to materialize our human need to feel loved romantically. The economic ploy has set this standard that unless you’re cozied up like Jalen and Monet, February 14 isn’t for you.
News flash, we all experience love in some way or another. Here’s your reminder that you are loved in more ways than you know. Let’s beat the stigma that love has to look like hand-holding and PDA for us to celebrate it.
- your attitudes are manifestations
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Take this as your fair warning: your energy is powerful, both good and bad.
I touched on it briefly in This Is Your Sign To Be Delusional, but your attitudes double it and pass it to the next as manifestations. If you give Grinch energy every Valentine’s Day, let me say this nicely: It’s no surprise to me that you’re single (Okay, maybe there is no ‘nicely’).
If your distaste for the day of love is a projection of loneliness, heartbreak, or jealousy of those in happy relationships, you’re only digging yourself into a deeper hole. The energy you put out is the energy that you will receive back. If you hate the idea of love because you want it just that much, you’re only pushing it further away from you.
Do yourself a favor and keep your heart chakras open by putting out positive energy when it comes to the idea of love if you want a better chance of having a romantic Valentine’s Day next year.
Celebrating love on Valentine’s Day whether it’s with the girls or by yourself helps you practice the Law of Affirmation by affirming and celebrating the fact that there is already an abundance of love in your life (and so much more to come).
- there’s something romantic about being single too
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There’s something so utterly romantic about being single. First of all, being single in your 20s is simply getting to know the person your soulmate will be in love with: yourself.
Every day you remain single is another day of healing, growing, and crafting yourself into the person that the love of your life will fall madly in love with.
There’s something so intimate about meeting the other people your significant others love, whether it’s their childhood friends, their family, best friends, mentors, etc. It almost feels like falling in love with them all over again when you see the love between them and the people they cherish. Spending time with yourself romantically is like getting to know the person your soulmate will love most.
If you were left to spend a day with your future spouse’s best friend, parent, or sibling, I bet you would plan the most special day because if they mean a lot to your partner, they mean a lot to you.
Treat yourself like you are the most special person in the world because one day you will be to that special someone.
- this is your excuse to splurge!
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An excuse to make a transaction? Count me in!
Being single on Valentine’s Day sounds like a blessing to me, because the only gifts I have to buy are for myself.
If you’re someone who finds yourself feeling guilty about spending money on eating out or buying yourself something nice, this is the perfect time of year for you. Being single is automatically saving you money that you would otherwise be spending if you were in a relationship. Since you basically have free money now, remind yourself that you deserve something nice on this special day, too.
Whether it’s getting your nails done, ordering a DoorDash order of your favorite meal, or taking yourself on a shopping spree to get those pieces you’ve been wanting, find a way to treat yourself and show yourself some love.
- we have the ability to feel love. is that not worth something?
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We are in our lucky girl era based on the pure fact that we can love with profound intensity.
If you aren’t in the Valentine’s Day mood this year because of being hurt in the past, think about this. Not everyone gets to experience love in their lifetime.
To love and to be loved, even if it has come and gone, is something we should celebrate.
To have our heartbroken even means we once loved enough to feel loss. This also reminds us that we are capable of loving so hard. This only gives us something to look forward to. We know we can love and it’s so exciting thinking about the fact that we can experience it again.
It isn’t too late to go from Grinch to Cupid before Valentine’s Day is here. Take the day to celebrate the love around you: there is so much of it!