I think we can all agree that networking can often feel like a chore. Making and keeping connections is a lot of work, especially juggling it with our other responsibilities. On top of that, reaching out to strangers can be socially exhausting for introverts like myself.
This can be enough to make a job-seeking introvert avoid networking altogether, but I’m here to tell you that it’s so worth it. Unfortunately, too many qualified people apply to job postings for recruiters to give each application a fair chance. So even as an introvert, I’m willing to take advantage of any leg up I can get in my job applications. The takeaway from a networking conversation could be as small as insight on the company culture or as big as a referral. Any way the conversation goes, you won’t walk away empty-handed.
LinkedIn is definitely the go-to for initiating a connection, particularly in a pandemic. The online aspect definitely helps with my anxiety in reaching out to a stranger when I’m sitting behind a screen. I’m also pleasantly surprised by how my school’s alumni network has been so willing to help. That common ground is such a lifesaver in keeping the conversation going since I know I can always make small talk about what’s happening on campus.
Once you arrange a call with a connection, the nerves usually kick in. My game plan to avoid dreading the conversation is to prepare…a lot. I like to create a document with more questions than I need so that I can use the ones that are most relevant to the way the conversation is going. I don’t always type their answers while they’re talking to be fully present, but I will go in afterward to recap the highlights.
The actual conversations are inevitably the most stressful part. Remind yourself that you are in control of the chat, it will be over before you know it, and if it’s awkward, you never have to talk to them again. I also love the tried and true advice “fake it ‘til you make it.” Pretending to be confident really does give a little boost! Once it’s over, reward yourself and keep going.
This introvert did a lot of successful and not-as-successful networking this year, and it paid off. I just accepted my top choice internship, and it feels incredible. I wish you the best of luck in your networking endeavors, no matter how intimidating it seems!