Self-love has never been easy for me. For some reason, it was always easy to put me down and doubt my worth which led to me having low self-esteem for a very long time. At some point, a friend of mine pointed out that I was often very hard on myself for no reason. Looking back now, I can see how right they were. It’s true when they say you are your own harshest critic. That was very true for me and sometimes still is. I’m learning to stop comparing myself to others but at one point in my life, that was all I did. What caused me to have a change in my mindset was when my mom showed me a video that shared that when you talk down to yourself, you talk down to your much younger self.
I looked at a photo of myself from when I was five and almost immediately broke down. I knew that little Quinn didn’t deserve to be talked to that way and so I began to mend my relationship with myself. Each day, I try to say a few kind things to myself. I’ve gotten addicted to the affirmations part of TikTok, but it has actually helped me a great deal with my self-confidence and my ability to be kinder to myself. The way I have implemented a change is by speaking kind words to myself on a daily basis. As I was making a Pinterest board, I saw a quote that said “Treat yourself like someone you love” and I’m doing that, bit by bit. Working on yourself is definitely a process but it’s so worth it to see how far you can go. I know that I have more progress to make, but I’m getting there.