The first time I went to therapy I was 8 years old. My parents had recently divorced and both they and my school thought it would be good if I “talked” to someone. The only thing I remember from going to therapy in third grade is that I got out of class early once a week and the nice lady gave me candy. Looking back on my experience I realized that I didn’t need to talk so much, but rather a safe, quiet space to simply be. This is just one of the benefits of therapy. It’s what you make it. There are so many different types of therapy because it is understood that each person and experience is unique.
No one says that going to therapy is easy. After my first experience in third grade, I didn’t return to therapy until my junior year of high school. It’s hard to admit when you need help or guidance, and it’s even harder to ask for it. I applaud all of you who have made those steps to go to therapy, and I encourage those of you who are working towards getting there. Take your time, you have to get there on your own.
Therapy is both reactive and proactive. Explaining the different hardships in your life is difficult. My therapist once described this process to me as comparing yourself to a broken bone. If you don’t set that bone properly, it won’t heal correctly. You have to re-break the bone in order for it to heal. In my personal experience, talking through all my problems is not the most fun, but it gives the opportunity to re-process in a healthy and safe way. The next step is setting goals. It may seem silly, but setting goals with a therapist gives you someone to cheer you on, as well as hold you accountable for those goals.
If talk therapy isn’t for you or hasn’t worked in the past, there are many different types. All confidential and in a safe space. Art therapy, mindfulness-based therapy, and music therapy are just some examples that may seem a little unconventional.
Not everyone has life-altering events happen in their life, but it is never a bad idea to seek out help from a professional. No matter what you’re dealing with in life, it never hurts to have a little extra support. Every therapist is trained and must be licensed in their states. Most states require certified therapists to renew their license every few years. I won’t lie and say everyone loves therapy or that every therapist is the best. But I encourage you to not let that discourage you from trying, or even trying again, to seek help. Therapy provides guidance. It provides a safe space to let your emotions run free from judgment. Therapy can help solve problems and accomplish goals. And even sometimes, if you’re lucky, your therapist might have a dog to cuddle!