In the last few months, I have learned about my own energy. I am more careful and reflective now when it comes to who I let into my space. How do I feel when I’m around certain people? Do I feel drained and anxious? Or do I feel content and at peace? I have also learned to say no more often. If it brings me anxiety and discontentment, I will not surround myself with it.
If there is something that 2021 teaches you, let it be that establishing boundaries helps protect our time and aura. Boundaries are essential to better communicate in our relationships and they help us make decisions based on what is best for us individually.
It is so important to take the time and effort to manage our emotions and connections in a healthy way. Below are some boundaries I’ve set for myself that have changed my life for the better.
1. I will not allow others to guilt trip or manipulate me into doing things that I’m uncomfortable with, or allow them to invalidate my feelings.
2. I will honor my emotional needs. I will focus on what it is that I’m lacking emotionally and work on improving that.
3. I will not hold myself responsible for things that are beyond my control. I also will not blame myself for the pain that someone else has caused me.
4. I will continue standing up for myself and others, and voice my ideologies with confidence.
5. I will cut people out of my life who make me feel unworthy.
6. I will not let my happiness depend on other people.