It’s that time of year again. The holidays are over and you’re probably in a bit of a slump. Break was too short, classes are bearing down on you, and everything just seems like a lot. January seems to be the month where many temporarily lose the motivation and inspiration they thought they would have heading into the new year.
But, maybe you’re feeling more than that. Maybe this feeling has been lingering in the back of your mind for a few months now, not just the past few weeks. It seems like everybody else around you knows where they’re going, and you’re trailing further and further behind. Whether it’s in your academics, career, or personal life, being lost never feels good. However, it is a natural feeling that can promote positive growth and change, large or small, within your life.
Trust me when I say you are not alone. I’m not just repeating a timeless cliche; it is really true. Everybody experiences this feeling from time to time, and, if someone says they don’t, they’re probably lying. It doesn’t matter your age, experience, career path, if you don’t question yourself from time to time, you’re doing something wrong. And it’s okay; it is perfectly human. It may not feel all that great, but feelings of confusion can prove to be great agents of positive change, as long as you are honest and confront your feelings.
The best thing to do whenever you feel this way is to reflect. Find a quiet spot to sit, preferably somewhere where you won’t be interrupted. Take the time to think through what is making you doubt your decisions and, then, tackle your emotions head on. Make a list or a chart if you want. Have a good cry if you need to. Do whatever helps out with your process. Understanding what it is that is upsetting you is essential to moving past the issue. Once you’ve come to terms with these emotions, you can decide what steps to take to make a change.
People can’t remain static their entire life, and change is inevitable. We’re constantly morphing as human beings, who you are today is drastically different than who you were a year ago, or even six months ago. The idea of change can be fairly terrifying and most people naturally crave stability. Change doesn’t have to be enormous or drastic; it can be small and subtle. You don’t have to completely restart your life every time you question it (in fact, I would really advise against that), but actively working towards making yourself happier in small ways will overall improve your quality of life, and make you feel proud of all you’ve accomplished. If you’re not sure what to change, or even how to go about making that change, consult someone you trust about the matter, someone you feel you can confide in. You don’t have to take their advice, but it might just feel good to get these feelings off of your chest, with no judgment or consequences.
You’re going to feel lost once in awhile, especially during your college years. It is most likely going to crop up once in a while for the rest of your life. Insecurity is natural, and it doesn’t care how old, successful, or content you are. It still likes to creep in once in a while. You just need to take a deep breath, face your feelings, and know that you’ll get through this. I believe in you.