Friends Grow Apart: How to Deal

Friends grow apart. It’s a fact of life. Just like any relationship or connection you make with another person, there’s always a chance that, for one reason or another, things don’t work out.

As often as this might occur, it can be just as difficult to cope with the loss of a once dear friend. Despite the circumstances that drove you apart, it can take time to get over the sadness.

One of the worst things you can do when dealing with losing a friend is harping on the past. If the situation is at the point in which everything that could have been done is done, move on. Focusing on past mistakes will only make you feel worse.

Remember all of the positive aspects of the friendship, and how they helped you grow or change as a person. There is always a reason why people might feel the need to move in a different direction. Every person you become close with will have an impact on your life. However, not everyone is meant to stay in your life.

Accept the necessary amount of blame on your part. There is no need to lie to yourself or others. Accepting the situation as it is will help you come to terms with why the friendship ended. There are at least two sides to every story.

Keep yourself busy. Open yourself up to new opportunities, including clubs and organizations around campus. Getting involved is a great way to meet new friends and make great connections.

Going along with that, be open to making new friends. Be sociable with all different types of people that you might not normally talk to. You never know who you might meet.

In addition, losing a friend doesn’t mean you should become super clingy with your current friends. This is especially common when a couple breaks up and they try to compensate by being with their friends 24/7. Being an over-demanding friend can be annoying and overwhelming, and will just make you appear desperate.

Lastly, take time to focus on yourself. This is the time to work out any deep-rooted personal issues that you may have with yourself, as well as pick up on new and healthy habits. Maybe try to go to the gym more regularly, or take up a new hobby.

No one wants to lose a friend, but it is bound to happen at least once in your lifetime. People change, grow apart, develop issues, relocate, etc. Sometimes losing a friend can be for the better if it stimulates personal growth and development. Whatever the reason, there is always a way to move on and learn from past mistakes.