From the everlasting job hunt to the deep trenches of first dates and adulthood, we should all know how to make a memorable first impression. We communicate with each other daily, yet still fail to master this billowing play of words and interactions.
Learn how to hone in on your conversational skills for when it matters most.
1. Speak not of what you do, but of the difference you make
How many times have you been asked “what do you do?” Use this question as an opportunity to reveal the underlining mission behind why you do what you do. So if you’re a journalist, explain that you are the voice to and of the public as the forefront of breaking news. Not only will your unique response make you stand out from the crowd, but it’ll also demonstrate that the nature of your work is more meaningful to you than any title or job position.
2. Exude Confidence
Both your mental state of mind and your body language play a significant role here. What you believe will seep through to the physical world. Faking it before making it really does work in this case. Pump out your chest a little and put those positive words of affirmation on replay—eventually your self-confidence will attract all sorts of undeniably good opportunities.
3. Talk about your Passions
Nothing is more attractive than the way your eyes light up when you speak about what makes you the happiest. Astronomy, kayaking, gardening—you name it! What matters the most is how it makes you feel. The joyous energy you infuse into the conversation will transcend onto your partner, thus causing them to adopt a more favorable opinion of you.
4. Be Inquisitive
Everyone loves to speak about themselves. Ask thoughtful questions and provide insight in return. Never shy away from a debate, so long as you’re respectful of others’ point of views. Stimulating conversation will unquestionably leave a mark.
5. Connect Based on Values
Find common ground between others and yourself through value-based communication. Find out what they value the most by inquiring about the reasons behind their passions, life objectives and career aspirations. Also take note of how their history has shaped them into who they are today. Once you’ve gathered a solid understanding of the other party’s background, relate your values while leveraging on your past experiences.
6. Don’t Settle
Be honest about what you want and know your worth. When on the job hunt, analyze the job position and company culture and ask difficult questions to hint that you need to be sold on the company. In the dating realm, don’t ever settle for what you don’t want—whether that may be a more serious or fun relationship, make it clear that your partner wants the same thing as you.