"I never lose. I either win or learn."
- Nelson Mandela
When you are young, you should view mistakes as being acceptable. Your life is just getting started, and it is normal not to have the answers to everything. It is okay to make mistakes along your journey to find the answer. The important part is that you take the learned lessons and apply them in later situations.
As you get older, you should also view mistakes as learning opportunities. You should not be discouraged by any conflicts that may arise from making mistakes. It would be best if you also tried to have the mindset that every day is a new chance to be better than you were the day before.
Take every opportunity presented to you because it may be a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.
Even if you think it is out of your reach, still attempt to take the opportunity because it could help you grow by teaching you important life lessons.
Completing the tasks of the opportunity you thought was out of your reach would not only be a great sense of relief and a proud moment for you. You will thank yourself for taking the opportunity in the long run.
It is impossible to satisfy everyone. Trying to satisfy everyone can cause a lot of stress and self-esteem issues.
So, do what makes you happy. It is important that you feel confident within yourself. Your choices should be based on what you want and not based on others' expectations of you.
At the end of the day, you are the one who has to live with the decisions you make.
It is very important to take time out to care for yourself. You can do this by taking mental health days when needed or by simply practicing self-care.
Here are a few suggestions for self-care activities. (These are some things I do to make myself feel good!)
- Get a manicure and/or pedicure
- Get your hair done
- Have an at-home spa day
- Sleep in
- Watch a movie or tv series (You can also enjoy your favorite snacks during this time!)
However, it is okay to help others, but do not lose yourself in the process.
If you are putting a lot of effort into someone, ask yourself if the person you are putting so much effort into would do the same for you. A simple yes or no should determine your next approach.
If the answer to that question is yes, continue what you’re doing. If the answer is no, take a step back.