It happens every day of the year, regardless of the season. A guy or girl gives you red flags, keeps lying, or is just acts weird all the time and breaks your heart. You let it slide because you think they’ll change, they’re just “in a bad mood,” or things will get better, and you don’t want to risk losing what “could” be a good relationship.
I know how you feel. From my many situationships and relationships, I know that it’s hard out here, but I think I have some words of wisdom that I can pass on. I used to be one of those girls who would give lame excuses for a bad boyfriend acting like a crybaby or a child… thinking it was going to get better. Guess what… it doesn’t get better. It just means I was okay with settling for less.
But girl to girl, we all need someone in our corner to give us tough love. And honestly, I get it. Choosing yourself is one of the HARDEST, but it is also one of the most REWARDING things you can do. That said, here are three simple tips on how to choose yourself, walk away, and own it.
- Be an Observer, Not an Entertainer
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When someone shows you their red flags (lying, acting weird, being distant, etc.), just observe them. Do NOT try to fix their behavior. You’re not their parent. And honestly, let them expose themselves to you for who they really are. You should never have to fight for anyone’s respect.
- Silence Is the Answer
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Look, as much as you want to send that long 10-paragraph text and tell them how you feel because you want to feel big and bold, please DON’T do this. Not to hurt your feelings, but they are most likely skimming those paragraphs and not even paying attention to the important parts. Also, let’s be real: you don’t have time for that teen nonsense, that’s not queen energy.
- Who Are You Losing Sleep Over?
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Imagine losing sleep over a man who can’t even do his own laundry or brush his teeth twice a day. I mean, stop playing with me, girl. You’re funny. But seriously, you cannot force a man to see your value when he is stuck in a trash mindset.
IT. IS. THAT. SIMPLE. Stop staying up all night sacrificing your sleep, hard work, and your mood the next day because you stayed up waiting on a guy’s text when he said he was going to call back and never did. He should be losing sleep over his poor behavior, not you.
And always remember: YOU ARE THE PRIZE!
You can thank me later.