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So, Your Long-Term Relationship Ended — Here Are 20 Mantras To Get Through It

Breakups suck. It’s just a sad truth of the universe. But, they are undeniably worse when you have been with your partner for a long time. In the dating game, most people consider relationships longer than a year to be long-term, but heartbreak can hurt just as much no matter how much time has passed. If you’ve been in a long-term relationship, you might have discussed a future post-grad, plans for life once you have jobs, or distant future plans like marriage. And, suddenly, it’s all over. And you might feel lost or confused. 

While it’s easier said than done, remember how much value you have, and embrace the single life for yourself. This is your time to grow on your own, so own it! Embracing the feelings can be hard, but they are all valid and you can feel truly and deeply. Everyone has been through a breakup and you always have friends you can lean on. 

It’s OK to grab a pint of ice cream and sit wondering what to do next. Take time to heal your heart with these mantras, and remind yourself of your potential. You’ll get through it, I promise.

Some things break your heart, but fix your vision.

Get ready for that post-breakup glow-up. 

My value does not decrease based on someone else’s ability to see my worth. 

Remember that you are still worthy even when you’re single. 

I am whole and perfect by myself. 

With or without a partner, you have value. 

You can be a whole package and still arrive at the wrong address. 

The person who is meant to be your forever is out there. 

I love myself enough to protect my boundaries. 


I will not heal by going back to what broke me. 

There is a reason for ending things. Remember that instead of getting back together without thinking about it.

Love is only worth fighting for when you aren’t the only one fighting. 

You cannot carry a whole relationship. It’s simply not sustainable.

Some people are meant to be temporary. 

Take this breakup as a lesson.  

I will do what’s best for me. 

Sometimes being selfish and prioritizing yourself is the best option. 

What’s coming is better than what’s gone.

Your single era is all about growth, and that’s always a win.

I love me.

Simple and sweet: The more you say it, the more you’ll believe it.

It’s their loss.

For the harsher breakups out there. If they gave up you, it’s definitely their loss.

Heartbroken, but eyes open. 

The universe is closing this door to open another window of opportunity. 

It’s time to let go.

You deserve that peace. 

All of my feelings are valid. 

You can grieve the loss of this person from your life. 

I am following dreams, not partners. 

Build yourself the life you want, don’t just try to fit into someone else’s. 

I am my own safe place. 

Now, it’s time to build a safe place by yourself and learn to love solitude.  

I will be someone who makes me happy. 

Focus on finding happiness instead of a person who brings you happiness. 

Having a fulfilling life doesn’t require a partner. 

There is so much in store for you, bestie, embrace it. 

I will learn to love myself, because I will be with them for the rest of my life. 

You are amazing! I promise. 

Julia is a national writer for Her Campus. While she writes for all verticals, her focus is the wellness section, bringing you everything you need to know about relationships, astrology, and the best ways to get down and dirty. Julia is a grad student at Syracuse University where she studies communications. She is a graduate of Stony Brook University, where she studied journalism with a minor in women's studies. During her time at SBU, she was a VS PINK campus rep, and an active member of Her Campus @ SBU. When she isn't writing, you can find Julia reading a smutty romance novel, hitting up her local crystal shop, or thrifting with an iced oat milk latte in hand. She's a Capricorn (but you probably already knew that) and a practicing yogi.