While waiting for the student centre elevator yesterday, I ran into a guy that I know. What caught my attention was the gift bag that he was holding. Within it resided a build-a-bear that a child had given him as a present. I found immense difficulty in attempting to silence my “awe” trigger. The final product, costumed and accessorized, was impressive. It is likely that this run-in resulted in the sudden urge that I felt later in the day. Stressed out from incomplete tasks for the day ahead, I felt a deep desire to seek comfort with Shadow (my stuffed pet cat). So that’s exactly what I did. I walked into my closet, pulled my beautiful black kitten off the shelf, and then plopped back into my desk chair with my arm wrapped tightly around Shadow. I instantly felt better.
As we grow older, we abandon the things that we have been programmed by society to think that we no longer need and move on to more sophisticated or “adult” ways to cope with stress: the gym, a massage, dating, clubbing, etc.
It isn’t necessary to maintain a collection (although I whole-heartedly encourage it), but having a stuffed animal as an adult can be very therapeutic. You always have someone to talk to—someone to confide in that won’t judge you. This gives you a chance for reflection—an opportunity to get in touch with your conscience. A major plus is that, you don’t need to worry about them sharing your secrets, unless someone overhears you or there is a recording device near you (or worse yet, IN your stuffed animal). What you can do to avoid the problem entirely is develop a telepathic mode of communication with your stuffed animal. That way you won’t ever get caught (unless someone catches the transmission… can that be done?)
The option of imaginary friends remains, but a physical representation that can actually appeal to your sense of touch might be more comforting. Besides, you can make your stuffed animals whoever you want or need them to be in terms of both appearance and the invisible details. Stuffed animals are especially great cuddling companions for people who can’t have pets. They’re so freaking soft.
So, if you don’t have any left at home, go out and buy yourself a stuffed animal. Because you know, shopping is therapeutic too. ;)
Caution: You should allow yourself to use your imagination to your benefit. There is nothing wrong about engaging with an inanimate object. But certain attachments to stuffed animals can be troubling. You need to be able to step away every once in a while and acknowledge the fact that your stuffed animal is not real. Readers, if you find yourself to be in an unhealthy relationship with an inanimate object, take care of yourself and create some space. If you notice that others are overly attached in such a way, it may be important for you to speak with them or get them to speak to someone. I know this sounds like a joke, but it’s not.