Relationships are never perfect and can even get messy. Sometimes they work out; other times, they don’t.
Whether you’re the girl who’s been fighting to make a relationship work or you’re the girl who just got out of one, here are some words of encouragement as you embark on your journey to remembering your self-worth.
To the girl he left behind:
(1) You are worthy of more than the feeling of being held at an arm’s reach, convenient and close, but not too close—in the grey matter—almost as if he’s afraid to let you in for a full embrace; almost as if he never planned on letting you in from the very beginning. To him, you were just the girl who’d hang on for as long as he’d allow, but damn was he wrong. You deserve better; you are enough.
(2) You are worthy of more than the gut-wrenching slam you feel when he strays from the sweet words that once upon a time fell off his tongue so easily, almost as if he’d rehearsed it or said it many times before; that once upon a time you lapped up like a puppy and believed with every ounce of your being, with the utmost innocent intentions. To him, you were just the girl who’d stick around no matter what he’d throw your way, but damn was he wrong. You deserve better; you are enough.
(3) You are worthy of more than the feeling of being broken, of being torn between whether you should stay and try to make it work, knowing fully well that it will destroy you in the process—I’m not a quitter—or you should walk away when you realize when the signs, all the red flags, are making it blatantly clear that the pain has begun to consume you whole—“You’re not you anymore.”
I’m not saying it’ll be easy because, believe me, it never is: it’ll nearly kill you inside, the thought of walking away; of abandoning all the hard work you’d put in prior to this very moment—all the hard work that he failed to not only acknowledge or appreciate, but also reciprocate. To him, you were just the girl who’d do anything to salvage the relationship you were once in love with that’s now crumbling in the palms of your hands, but damn was he wrong. You deserve better; you are enough.
The truth of the matter is that he should be the reason you smile; he should be the source of your happiness—not the reason you are searching for it.
Be brave and fight for the girl who embodies every piece of advice you’ve given before about every relationship other than your own: she, who deserves better and is indefinitely more than enough.
