I don’t really know why it is so common, but it has become popular for people to hide their feelings and intentions towards another person, especially when it comes to relationships. I’m here to tell you why you should be blunt about what you want, especially in relationships and with your feelings towards others. I mean, realistically, what’s the worst that could happen? You find out the truth?
You might find out they feel the same way
If you are open and communicative, you might actually surprise yourself and the other person. Tell them how you feel, or maybe tell them how you don’t feel.
Rejection
Okay, people look at rejection as a negative, but I honestly think it’s better than the alternative. Wouldn’t you rather know that your feelings aren’t reciprocated than be devastatingly crushed in the future? I would definitely go with the first option, it involves less pain and makes it easier to move on.
You will feel liberated
Coming forward and talking about your intentions/feelings will be like a weight lifted off of your shoulders. There won’t be any more “what ifs” because everything has been laid on the table.
Are there feelings or is it just physical?
THIS IS SO IMPORTANT. Being upfront about what a particular relationship is going to be, or perhaps what it is not going to be, is key. What if you are just looking for friends with benefits? What if you actually have feelings? Communicate!
Fear?
I think some people think that being blunt might scare the other person away. Well if that’s the case, I have news for you, that person is definitely not for you! Being open means that you feel comfortable enough to talk about your wants and needs and if that is not respected, then on to the next one.
Maybe you’re just friends
This is something that can often get lost in translation and can create very big problems in a friendship. You could have feelings for a friend while they don’t, or vice versa. This is why it is important to communicate where you stand because it’s better to be aware of how the other is feeling than wrongly imagining that your feelings are reciprocated when the other person actually only wants friendship.
Mind Games
Wow, this topic makes me hella annoyed. Like can we maybe just not? This whole “I’ll just wait till they make the first move” or “I can’t text back its only been like 4 hours” shit needs to go. First of all, it’s just plain annoying, and in the grand scheme of things, a little bit immature. So, how about we stop with the foolishness, okay?
WHY NOT?
I mean, what do you have to lose? If you aren’t in a serious relationship, nothing. You either say it and they feel the same, or you say it and they don’t. It’s pretty black and white, and taking the risk could totally pay off in your favour!