It is very easy to feel helpless when someone you care about is suffering from depression. It seems like there is absolutely nothing you can do to help them feel better. Something I have noticed is that caring for someone that is dealing with depression is a massive lesson in keeping patience. Nothing will seem to help, invitations will be rejected, and distance and isolation can occur. I believe that patience is a necessary trait to have because I find that people will blame themselves for not getting through to their loved ones or blame the one dealing with depression. Neither party is to blame because it can and will be extremely difficult for someone to overcome their symptoms of depression. However, there are a few things that can help.
Being a good listener
This may seem obvious, but it is worth adding to this list. The keyword here is “good.” Anyone can lend an ear; that’s why it’s essential to be an active listener. A listening ear that is free from judgment is always a nice thing to have. Listening and providing emotional to someone who needs it can work wonders when trying to console someone dealing with depression. It can make that person feel less isolated and generally better about their situation because they have someone to talk to. When I am at my lowest, the last thing I want to do is reach out to people because I feel like a burden. When my loved ones reach out to me and get me talking, I usually feel so much better. It’s a beautiful thing to know that you are loved and understood by those around you.
Help Build their Confidence
When someone is going through a tough depressive episode, it is incredibly easy for them to feel unworthy of love, life, and most good things. Remind them of their strengths, accomplishments, and milestones. Tell them about their best traits and simply all the reasons you love them. I think it’s also important to point out any improvements they have made with their mental health. This can help instill hope in them to keep wanting to do better for themselves.
Do Research
Knowing an adequate amount of info on a condition can make the difference between doing or saying something helpful and hurtful. Get to know the condition. Learn the different ways it can manifest, what the symptoms are, what are some potential triggers, and how you can help. Depression can be very complex and it is vital to comprehend what your loved one is feeling and going through to help them feel better.
Check-in regularly
A consistent sense of support can make a world of difference to someone who is dealing with depression. A regular call or visit can make someone feel loved and supported during a tough time. It is essential to read cues from your loved one to see how much they might need it and how often they may need that reassurance. Earlier in this article, I mentioned patience. Patience needs to be present in all these tips and beyond them because it can be weeks, even months, before you start to notice improvements in their depressive symptoms. Don’t give up on your efforts; your loved one will appreciate it.