Lately, I have been thinking about myself. Sounds selfish, right? But I have. I’ve been thinking about the kind of person I am, the way I look, the kind of person I want to be, and what I want to be. Instantly, the VERY first thing I did was compare myself to other people. This made me feel awful, it made me feel like I’m not on the right track to my future, that I am not moving as fast as I should be, and I am focusing on the wrong things. It lowered my self-esteem. It made me feel like I am not as good as I have originally thought I am. When I was thinking about the way I looked, I thought about the people on Instagram with super-thin bodies, no acne, and perfect teeth. I thought I couldn’t be beautiful because of what I saw in the media. Then I started thinking more into it…
When did we start thinking that we had to compare ourselves to others to feel beautiful or successful? How did social media become the standards for ‘perfection’? Sit back and grab a glass of wine while I tell you how beautiful you are!
- Your Process is Just as Valid as Everybody Else’s
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By the time you’re 20, the media makes you believe that you need to know exactly what you’re doing with your life. You are expected to know how many kids you want, who you want them with, your profession, where you want to live, and all aspects of your life… Oh, and if you aren’t traveling the world while doing this, then you’re not living your best life.
You’re allowed to go at your own pace. Enjoy YOUR life. Do what you want, on your timeline. It’s okay to not know what you want to do yet. I don’t! Just enjoy the stage in life that you are now! Everything happens for a reason and no matter what, everything will be figured out.
- You Are Absolutely Beautiful
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There are so many standards that society has given us to be considered ‘beautiful’. Shaved legs, slim waist, flat stomach, big butts, clear skin, no imperfections, long shiny hair, and so much more. Here is the wake-up call… Your body WILL change! It’s normal to gain weight as you get older. You make the decisions on your body. Sometimes your hormones go wild and you will get blemishes and imperfections! Everyone is beautiful. We are all different. There is no specific way to be beautiful. What empowers you and makes you feel beautiful? Do that!
- You are Kind, You are Important, You are Loved.
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People who talk about you and make assumptions on who you are, those are the people who aren’t important in your life. You can’t please everyone. Not everyone is going to love you. However, do the people you love tell you that you are kind and beautiful? There are so many types of people in the world. I recently had someone write that I am a ‘b*tch’ on my whiteboard, but I also had someone send me a message to tell me that I am glowing. You’re not going to please everyone, it’s about how you feel about yourself. When you look in the mirror, do you see someone you can be friends with and respect? That’s what matters. Love yourself.
Next time you think you’re not good enough, that you’re not beautiful, and that you aren’t living your ‘best’ life. Remember that you are worthy. You are kind. You are loved. You are beautiful. Comparing yourself to other people is one of the most toxic things you can do. Learn to love yourself and know that you are your own kind of beautiful.
xoxo!