We Should All Be the Mom Friend

I’m often referred to as the ‘Mom’ friend in my group. It’s fine, honestly, I’ve gotten used to it. I used to think of that as an insult, and then I realized that there was nothing wrong with being referred to as the mom-- it just meant that I cared about my friends and was willing to stand up for them, even if they weren’t. 

I’ve always been the type of person who’d much rather stand up for their friends than for themselves, but somewhere along the line, I managed to acquire the ability to stand up for myself if I really needed to. Some people seem to think that not being afraid to tell someone how you honestly feel makes you seem like a bitch and believe me, I hear that a lot. But don’t listen to that kind of talk, because it all boils down to people being afraid to be honest with others as well as themselves. 

I don’t know when it got into people’s heads that being fake was better than being honest with someone, but it happened. Maybe it’s because I grew up with a family from up north and then moved down south, where some people seem to value being nice to your face and being honest when you’re no longer around to hear it. I’d much rather prefer you say how you feel to my face, but maybe that’s just me. 

If someone says something to offend you, I hope that you have the good sense to step up and say something. It’s all about confidence in yourself-- do you feel that you are worthy enough to not allow yourself to be treated poorly? There’s no need to be rude, but you can get your point across and be honest. Don’t be afraid to be 100% honest with people and let them know your true feelings. If we can’t be honest with others in our everyday lives, how can we expect anyone to treat us like adults and interact with us in a mature and responsible way? 

Being the mom friend is all about being the mature and responsible one, and who doesn’t want to be the dependable one in the room? There’s nothing wrong with being the person who isn’t afraid to take charge, who isn’t afraid to stand up for what they care about and who ultimately loves deeply and passionately. 

Our moms are honestly superheroes, so the real question you should be asking yourself is why wouldn’t you want to be the mom friend?