With Halloween officially behind us, we find ourselves at the beginning of the holiday season. People are starting to make Thanksgiving plans and the early birds, like myself, already have Christmas decorations up. It can be a time of joy and togetherness. But, for some, it can also be a remembrance of loss and uncomfortable emotions, such as loneliness. In movies, the holidays are portrayed with warmth, typically celebrated by traditional standards and nuclear families. In reality, some are spending it alone, with broken families, in money troubles and in other unnormalized situations. This time can feel like a magnifying glass of our problems. This season, let’s keep in mind that the holidays don’t look the same for everyone and that is okay.
If your holiday season feels hard this year, there are ways to cope with it. First, keep in mind that you aren’t alone in the way you feel. Many people struggle with overwhelming feelings during these few months. A hopeful sentiment is that it’s only a small part of your year.
It’s also beneficial to acknowledge the way you may be feeling. Uncomfortable emotions tend to be an indication of something we’re ignoring. Ask yourself, “why am I feeling this way?” The only way out of it is through, so try and allow yourself to sit with your feelings. They are valid.
Your holiday season doesn’t need to look traditional or like anyone else’s. A universal theme over the holidays is peace. What makes you feel peaceful? Some enjoy movies, taking fun trips or even having a staycation. Ignore societal pressure to have “typical” celebrations. You don’t have to do anything related to the holidays if you don’t feel up to it.
If you’re feeling lonely, consider reaching out. While sometimes we need separation, a connection can fulfill us in ways nothing else can. Whether that be with your family, friends, a pet, neighbor or even your coworkers. You may be pleasantly surprised by how you can relate to people. Movies, books and television can also be a healthy “escape” in moderation.
If you find the busyness of the season overwhelming, it’s okay to take a break. It’s normal to feel bombarded by the increased social interaction, extra spending and the planning the holidays often require. Listen to your body and rest when you feel is needed to avoid burnout. And remember, it’s okay to say no.
Keep your body and mind nourished. Take the time to exercise, even if that means taking a short walk on days that are extra hard. Eat foods that will make you feel good and drink plenty of water. Consume content that will benefit you rather than make you feel bad about your situation.
Learn to recognize what might be triggering you this season. If money is tight, stick to a budget to avoid extra stress. If you are feeling isolated, reach out. If you are grieving, be patient with the process and focus on the good times you had with your loved one. Do what you can to lighten the pressure on yourself.
Lastly, remain hopeful that your situation will get better. If you find yourself in tough times this season, remain patient and gentle with yourself. Hard times don’t last forever.
Whatever your experience may be this year, you’re not alone, nor should you feel less than. If you need one reminder this season: it’s okay. Don’t be afraid to let yourself off the hook to enjoy this time as best as you can. The holidays don’t have to be a time full of dread. It’s possible to find your own kind of peace this season, whatever that may look like for you.