We all have that friend—the one who gets upset over seemingly insignificant things, the one who always brings tissues to the movie theater, the one who gets offended at the smallest of sassy comments. Some write them off as being simply too over-emotional, while others just don’t understand how anyone could be THAT emotional. Before you judge your emotional friend for crying over Inside Out for the hundredth time, here’s what they want you to know:
1. Instead of getting angry, we cry.
As dumb as this sounds, it’s true. Anger quickly becomes tears if you’re dealing with someone with a lot of feelings, so try and listen to what we’re mad about through the tears.
2. We know we’re being emotional.
Trust me, we know. It’s annoying to us too.
3. Any movie can be a sad movie.
If you go see a movie with someone who’s overly-emotional, be prepared. If anything even remotely sad happens, at least one tear will probably be shed.
4. Asking if we’re okay can make things about 400 times worse.
It seems to be counterintuitive, but it’s not. If one of your friends is getting overly in their feels, just leave them be. They’ll be fine in a few minutes.
5. We don’t see things the way less emotional people do.
We don’t think things out or shrug things off easily–we wallow in our feelings for a while and recover.Â
6. Trying to rationalize our behavior isn’t going to work.
Don’t think about why we are the way we are or try and rationalize how we’re acting–not only is it pretty upsetting in and of itself, but it makes us feel like you’re trying to “fix” the way we are. Overly emotional and proud, thank you very much.
7. Our heart makes decisions before our head does.
We don’t think things through or make pro/con lists–we jump in wholeheartedly (pun intended) and deal with any possible repercussions after the fact.
8. Sometimes you just need a good cry—or two or three.
We have very overactive tear ducts, and while it may seem like we’re crying all the time over nothing in particular, sometimes all you really need it just to sit down and cry about all the small injustices in your life to feel better.Â
9. There’s nothing too small to be upset about.
Don’t try and put our problems into perspective by telling us whatever we’re worked up about “isn’t a big deal.” Let us be upset for a minute, we’ll snap out of it soon.
10. Please understand that we really can’t help it.
We would LOVE to not tear up at the most insignificant things or get upset about close to nothing. But we really just can’t help it.