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I think we can all agree that one of the most exceptional feelings in the world is when you get what you want! Whether it was given or worked for, it is so gratifying and an instant mood-booster. Although, they say that your attitude when you don’t get what you want is what truly matters. Life is supposed to have its share of setbacks, defeats, and other things that cause feelings of disappointment. However, I think it’s time to call attention to the person and what they’re doing about that! To an extent, you are able to control the way that things pan out for you. It’s fair to say that if we didn’t have moments of frustration then we couldn’t truly appreciate the victorious ones. But if you can sway things to work in your favor, it’s about time that you started doing so! See, there are certain things that YOU’RE probably doing (unintentionally, of course) to deter your chances at getting whatever it is that you want.
Not to point any fingers–okay, I’m pointing fingers–but if the following apply to you *looking eyes emoji* here’s your wakeup call!!
1. You’re holding on to the impossible:
Usually, this involves getting hung up on the past. Things that simply can not be changed aren’t meant for us to linger on. If that were the case, there would be time machines and a redo button. In those instances where you’re well aware that it would be a waste of time to pursue ____(insert person/thing you want), then don’t waste your time trying to justify wasting your time!!
2. You’re a non-believer:
We’re not talking religion here; it’s your faith in yourself and the universe in general. See, if you’re constantly wishing away the good because you’re expecting the bad, that leaves little room for positive things to happen. Whether you realize it or not, your belief is your reality. If you say that you’re never going to do this or find that then don’t expect for it to happen. One of the most common mistakes people make is laying a weak foundation, lacking plans and nourishment, but wanting a stable home to grow there.
3. You’re in a permanent pout:
It goes hand-in-hand with #2. When you let your failures or “that one bad thing that happened a week ago” simmer then you’re inviting all kinds of negative vibes in, which can only lead to you feeling like total poo. Even the most extraordinary people and places will seem unappealing when you’re in a funk. Shake it off!! Taylor Swift was on to something when she wrote that gem.
4. You’re not being realistic:
Choosing to overlook what has proven to be true is easy to do, but tough to cope with. This isn’t an excuse to be pessimistic, instead it is your decision to pay attention to transparency. It is you deciding that when your love interest tells you something (that you don’t necessarily want to be true), you listen effectively and make a decision based upon that–not what you had hoped would happen. Every aspect of life would be 10x better if our desires came to fruition 100% of the time. Yes, it is important to keep potential in mind, but what is present here and now is just as important!
5. You’re not making alterations:
What have you done differently lately? Often times, people look at changes as a big deal like buying a whole new wardrobe or losing 15 pounds. While both can provide wonderful feelings of satisfaction, it doesn’t have to be that extreme. When you get the same results from doing the same things, it is completely necessary to switch something up. Even if it seems minor or you’re working up to something bigger and better, just do it.
These five actions can cause the perfect combination of chaos. You don’t have to proclaim to the world that any of these apply to you, but at least have a chat with yourself. You deserve to have the best things in life and if you can give them to yourself then why not make an adjustment or two?
HCXO!