We always hear that you shouldn’t quit things, and to stick it out if you can. But, some things you just need to give up! I am here to tell you it’s ok to quit something that doesn’t necessarily bring joy to your life because the most important thing is you and your well-being.
Romantic Relationships: It doesn’t matter if you two have been together for two years or two months, if the relationship isn’t working, let it go! There is no reason to stay in a relationship if it’s not making you happy! I also want to bring up another important point. If you and your partner decided to take your relationship to the most intimate level (sex), you can always stop! Do not let your significant other, friends, or society, tell you it’s wrong to cease having sex if you’re not feeling it, just because you did it once or twice before with that person. I promise you, the other person will thank you for not leading them on or make them think the two of you are feeling the same way about the relationship.
Friendships: I am all for the process of phasing out friends, and you should be too. Just like in a romantic relationship, it doesn’t matter how long the two of you have been friends. If they start negatively influencing you and your life, and you notice it, and it upsets you, QUIT that friendship. We are at a point in our lives where the company we keep can either help us succeed in life or help us fail horribly.
Majors: Some of us knew our Freshman year of high school what we wanted our major to be in college. Some of us didn’t. Some of us right now are in a major that we despise, and cringe at the thought of one day having a career in that field. If you HATE your major, QUIT IT! You shouldn’t be spending thousands of dollars a year for classes in a major that makes you miserable. Take time and use your campus resources to figure out what you want to do, and a pick a major that will help you get to that dream career.
Extracurriculars: Classes and grades are the most important reasons why we come to college, but we all know the college experience wouldn’t be anything without jobs and campus organizations. A lot of students like to have their own money to spend it on whatever they want. They also want to join clubs, because that’s how you put yourself out there and meet new people. Let me tell you this if you start to HATE that job or organization, QUIT IT! I know personally how some jobs and organizations can be. Sometimes the extracurriculars demand more from you than your classes do. If the extracurriculars you decide to pick up are making you miserable and it is taking over your life, don’t feel any shame by dropping them and focusing on school, or starting a job/organization that you would enjoy.
Now, I hope you feel more confident about giving up those people, relationships, and other things in your life that doesn’t make you happy. Never be ashamed to change your life for the better. Now go and be happy and free!
-HCXO