As Thanksgiving or what some refer to as “thankstaking” is creeping up on our calendars, so does the anxiety that comes from knowing you will have to interact with some family members you just never seem to meet eye-to-eye with. Some people love to spend this time with family, gathering around the table to enjoy each other’s company, and to give thanks for the opportunity to do so each year. Others cannot wait for the night to be over, and sometimes it’s both. The fear of answering the same questions like “when are you going to bring a boy home?” Or “what are you majoring in again?” can be a frustrating experience and we are here to tell you you’re not alone!
Thanksgiving In it’s wholesome problematic nature can already be overwhelming to deal with. But sometimes our family is just the whip cream on top of the problematic pie.
For those of you who find yourself constantly wanting to leave the table. For those of you who already feel the anxiety of having to pass the rolls and getting questioned about something you posted on Facebook a month ago. For those of you who recognize that sometimes family can be toxic here are 20 words of affirmation to read before and after being in a toxic space:
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Your voice is valid
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To protect your energy it’s okay to speak up
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It’s okay to say no
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Only you can decided how you feel
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Only you can decided what you take in
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You are worthy of love
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Trust yourself
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Your actions and words can inspire others
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It’s okay to disagree
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Choosing not to respond is also a response
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Guilt is a feeling not a fact
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You’re capable of acknowledging you don’t need and letting them go
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Advice you hear from others is not always for you and that’s okay
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Small frustrations don’t have to overpower your whole day or life
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Your dreams are valid
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You are more than your body shape or size
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FEAR is just False Expectations Appearing Real
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I’ve survived all my difficult moments of my past
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All situations are temporary
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You are valid
Just read these out loud as you get ready, before you leave your car and when you leave the space, it is important that you speak up but also protect yourself and who you are. Family can have a big impact in our mental health and self care, in both negative and positive ways. Speaking words of affirmation and believing them can help you decided what to take in and and what to let go. You matter and you are not alone!