Visiting home in college means having your grandma, mom, aunt, etc., with totally good intentions, ask the dreaded question — are you dating anyone? This seems like a completely harmless and simple question about something your loved ones are genuinely curious about. What some people don’t understand, though, is that you might not want to be in a relationship and that is okay. Here are a few reasons why I’m not in a relationship right now and maybe some for you to use to explain why you don’t want one either.
In college, most of us are insanely busy — I just don’t have the time I want to give and put into a relationship right now. When I finally find the person I want to commit to, I want to be able to put in the time to develop a healthy and great relationship. Right now, I’m just not able to make the time. School, work, extracurriculars, and other passions just absorb too much of my time right now and that’s how I like it.
I’m at the age where I want to build up my lifelong friendships. I have so many people that I want to put my time into and make incredible memories with. Of course, you can still have great friendships when you are dating someone, but there is something different about being completely single and throwing yourself into your friendships and the memories you get to create in this short phase in your life.
College is the one time where I can do most things I want (within reason). I don’t have the responsibilities of a family, mortgage, or super serious job to keep me tied down to anything. If I want to leave the country I can. If I want to transfer colleges across the country I can. Having a significant other can sometimes keep you tied down in a place or situation that you don’t want to be in.
Being single is fun! Sometimes it can be hard when you want a good cuddle session or a go-to date, but when you want to make your own decisions without having to worry about anyone else, it is such a nice thing. When you are single, what you want to do with your Friday nights or where you want to go out to dinner is completely up to you. Your life is completely your own and that is such a refreshing feeling.
Currently, I have bigger ambitions than finding “Mr. Right”. I want to do the best I possibly can in my classes, get into an amazing graduate school, work hard at my job, travel when I can, and put my all into my sorority and other extracurriculars. If I happen to find the right person, then by all means I will try my absolute best to put in all I have because I fully believe that life isn’t worth it without love. Right now, though, I don’t need to force a love that isn’t there. The right person will come at the right time, fit perfectly into my busy life and not only accept my dreams but help me pursue them.