Are you guilty of telling someone “you look so skinny” and thinking that was a compliment? Of course women take it in and it adds confidence to their minds. Let’s flip the script up a bit. Would you ever greet someone with, “Wow, you look so fat!” Granted being “skinny” in our culture is more accepted, but why do we have to revolve our habits around looking the best we could, when we should be loving and embracing who we are. We are growing up in a culture where we are raised to reward thin hips and flat tummies. Why are we taught to idolize “skinny?” Some girls are naturally born a certain way.
Everyone has body challenges they deal with. We are wrong for constant editing and using tools to make us look like something we’re not. We are wrong for expecting the “perfect image” that is displayed through to our society. We shouldn’t want to be “skinny” or strive to be “skinny.” Defining ourselves with positivity is a better path to follow. We should be striving to be healthier and feel good about ourselves. Learn to love your body for everything about it and stop caring. Strive for your personal body goals for yourself, not other’s satisfaction.
Never try to change what you’re born with because you are beautiful just the way you are and someone out there loves you JUST for you. When you look in the mirror, you see things that other people don’t search for. Instead of focusing on what we love about ourselves, every time we look, we find something wrong to fix. Your mind is your worst enemy. Being what you think is “skinny” or “beautiful” is manifested through your own self. Instead of striving for “skinny” be your own “skinny” and be content where your life is. Never worry how people view your body. What the tag size says in your clothes should not matter because if you feel good, that’s all that counts.
Self-hatred, whether we like it or not, will always exist. We don’t go a single day without insulting our bodies and image. We live in a world where people compliment others rather then themselves. This needs to change. The day you learn to love your body and all that it is capable of is the day when you realize that YOU matter. It feels good to be called thin, but that should not comfort you. Feel good to feel self-acceptance.
We women have become accustomed to a norm that if you’re thin, you’re automatically happy. It’s so easy to look at skinnier people like their lives could be much easier… but because they’re thin? Do you see the problem with skinny yet? It creates an unhealthy following of people who are eager and willing to skip meals for their thin waist, flip their habits and change who they are inside and out.
We need to spend more time smiling in the mirror and having the attitude of “hell yea, I feel amazing.” We all go through the same self-insults, and letting ourselves down with these silly expectations. I’m telling you to stop insulting yourself. Double chins, thunder thighs, jelly rolls… whatever you call them, stop. When you want to change these insecurities, do them in a healthy way because nothing is better than satisfaction for yourself when you complete it.
I applaud the people who’ve risen above our social norms and are proud of their body and shape. It takes a lot to do so, I know things don’t happen like that over night. If we follow these people and like the way we look, we won’t have so many worries. Your body isn’t for anyone else’s thoughts, or a false interpretation of the love and respect you treat yourself with.
You are more than what you think “perfection” is.
The fact that we translate “skinny” to “pretty” only encourages the negative mindsets within others. It causes thoughts of, did I look fat before? I want to emphasize that I know all women are all different shapes and sizes. Some are naturally thin and some aren’t, but every woman in this world is beautiful. Thin and curvy and bigger and smaller ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL. All we need to do is make sure we are not confusing the line between compliments of “you’re so thin” and “you are so beautiful.” Tell people around them they look great.
Hey you, you’re standing on two feet today. You woke up and got up for a purpose. You are unique and beautiful in every way but remember your perfections are blinded by what you think your “imperfections” are. You have so much to love about yourself. I see you for everything you are, find your inner self-acceptance. There is a specific thing that we can do to make each other feel loved and accepted no matter what body type we have: STOP listening to what others have to say the perfect shape is and start loving ourselves for who we are.