Losing someone you love is painful. It’s even harder when you were best friends with that person but then life, immaturity, and trivial conflicts resulted in the end of your relationship.
The worst part of it is reflecting about your mistakes. As a professional overthinker, I often find myself engaging in this unhelpful practice. Without consciously acknowledging it, I tend to beat myself up with regrets about past behavior.
It truly hurts to say goodbye to a close friend― the kind of goodbyes that are forever, despite life being a common denominator. Though they also involve heartbreak, friendship breakups could be even worse than the process of ending a romantic relationship.
Ideally, breaking up with a partner is as simple as mutually deciding to part ways. But how can you move on from losing a friend? Surely, one will make new friends, but ending a valuable friendship is a big deal. It’s not as easy to pull the plug, to walk away, to say goodbye…
In the end, however, life goes on. It is tough, yet not impossible. Hold on to the beautiful shared moments and let go of the nostalgia associated with a friendship breakup. Allow yourself to feel and to move on. Take some time off and reflect about what you could’ve done better, but keep in mind that you are more than enough.
Stop wondering why it happened. Maybe it had to occur for you to grow up. Remember, the journey called life is everything but linear. We’re all just trying to make it.
You will occasionally miss them, but time will be there by your side to make everything better. Friendship breakups hurt because they are a reflection of our mortality. They remind us of loss by bringing out our deepest vulnerabilities. It might be over, but I promise that in the end, it will be okay.