Why Do My Parents Hate Me?

Why do my parents hate me?

The other night I found myself in a deep argument with my brother because he felt that our parents not only disliked him, but were also ashamed of him and his not so prestigious job. After what appeared to be the longest hour of my life, of yelling, fighting, and crying, I came to the conclusion that we’ve all felt this way, thinking that our parents hate us, thousands of times before. We never speak up, even though we just want to scream, but we keep our mouth shut because why would we ever think that way about our parents.

While thinking about the situation I summed up a few questions we, as children, think to ourselves or have thought at one point about our parents and their decisions; which are the following:

• Don’t they want me to have a social life? They keep telling me to study, but whenever I study too much and forget about my friends for a while the “Do you really have any friends?” question pops out of nowhere. What do they really want?!!

This is never an easy question to answer, I’m not even sure if there’s a solution for it. Just imagine that you have a bottle filled with your hopes and dreams that’s easily breakable and this bottle is positioned on top of a scale with weights on both sides, but both sides have to be even because the slightest tilt could send your bottle rolling into the floor, completely shattering it. This balance is not easy to find. I haven’t found it and I don’t know if I will. But maybe you can. You’ll never know if you don’t try. It’s most likely that our parents never found it but they survived and they believe their children can do what they never could, that’s why they’re always so pushy with school and friends.

• Why are they always judging me? Why the curfew? Don’t they trust me?

I can bet on everything that they do trust you, no matter what mistakes you’ve made in the past, they just don’t trust the world. Each morning, our parents wake up just to see all the deaths and accidents transmitted in the morning news; now just imagine how would you feel if one of them ran out late at night to go out drinking with friends the same day someone told you that there was an accident and 3 people drove off a bridge because of a drunk driver. It wouldn’t feel very good, would it? Thats where those 2 am “where are you?” texts come from. No conscious mind could sleep with that tension.

• Why do they keep telling me to move out? Why do I have to get a job if I don’t ask them for money anyway?

Who would ever want to move out and get a job just to spend it all on food and rent? No one wants to do it when everything is good at home, that’s why they keep pushing… Don’t you get it yet? Parents want to give their children everything they didn’t have when they were kids, and they just want to spoil you. That’s why this is the hardest decision they will ever make, just letting you go is a nightmare to them, but this is life and one has to learn and experience it. One may know the whole game plan but it’s not until you run to the field and really play the game will you know how life really works. You won’t find out until you lose that safety net that is your parents house. This is what your parents want for you so that even in their absence they know you can continue with life.

• Finally. Why do my parents hate me?

Because they love you too much. So run over to them and thank them.

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