There are many upsides and downsides to having a big butt. Below is a ranked list of five cons, the last of the list being the worst offender in my experience.
1. Clothes Don’t Fit
- Jeans: The day where you find a pair of jeans that actually fit over your butt but also hug your waist the way jeans should is the best day of your life.
- Shorts: You feel like you need to wear shorts that aren’t even classified as short anymore because you don’t want to risk having the bottom of your cheeks hang out. And even if you pull your shorts down lower to cover more skin, they’ll make their way right back up again as you walk.
- Leggings: Black leggings are not your best friend, especially if you wear them in direct sunlight. Because of how stretched the fabric becomes from getting pulled over your butt, everything underneath can be seen. Unless you want everyone to see that new thong you’re wearing (which is fine if you do), choose a different color legging or a longer shirt to cover your butt.
- Dresses: You may think you found the perfect length dress, but your butt makes it appear even shorter than it should have been. Your butt takes up so much fabric that there is none left to cover the bottom of the goods.
2. Spotlight Stealer
During homecoming and prom season especially, the classic pose with your friends is turning around and looking at the camera. If you have a big butt, this becomes the focus of the picture, and that’s not always what you want. The focus should be the beautiful designs of the dresses, but your butt just sticks right out and grabs the attention.
3. Catcalling
Women of all shapes and sizes have to face catcalling, but when a woman with a larger rear-end walks by, the comments seem to get much more creative and, frankly, much worse. Catcalling is disrespectful to anyone who is the target of the comments, so don’t do it.
4. No Complaining Allowed
In modern-day society, big butts are desired. But when you have a big butt, you realize there are many cons to it that those who wish they had a big butt don’t realize. Whenever you try to vocalize how you sometimes hate having a larger bottom, those who wish they had one may tell you to stop complaining and be grateful. First of all, if they never let you complain about it, drop them. Surround yourself with friends who let you rant. But second of all, accept what you’ve been given and rock it.
5. They’re Dating Your Butt, Not You
The worst con from my personal experience is that they way your body looks can control who shows interest in you. Considering how society has shaped men’s perception of sex and women’s bodies, a guy may start talking to you simply because of how your butt looks. I’ve had my fair share of men approach me from behind, clearly only seeing the back of me before introducing themselves. It is flattering in some ways, but it starts affecting your emotions. You feel like you’re only good for your body, not anything else. If a guy that you have feelings for shows interest in you, but brings up your body more often than he brings up any other feature, start to be careful and distance yourself. From my experience, my body was the only thing some guys wanted, and once they get what they wanted out of it, they’ll move on to the next girl.
You shouldn’t have to hide certain features about yourself in order to prevent a man from only seeking that particular feature; flaunt your features if that’s what you want to do. But find yourself someone who seeks your inner beauty, and your butt is just the icing on the cake, no pun intended.
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