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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at UFL chapter.

I felt unhappy about my relationship status for a long time. It seemed like everyone around me was dating, and I was missing out on so much. I beat myself up when my crushes didn’t like me back and wondered if there was something wrong with me. I also thought that I was not pretty enough to have a partner.

But after what seemed like forever, I realized that I’m happy with my single status. After a non-stop stream of crushes since the age 13, I’m finally in a place where I can control my infatuation with the person I like. Unfortunately, I can’t turn my feelings off; if I could, I absolutely would.

I came to this realization by looking at my goals and thinking about how I can achieve them. As a senior in college, I plan to research and apply for jobs all the while enjoying my last year at UF. I also realized it’s not the end of the world if I’m not in a relationship. There is absolutely nothing wrong with neither my appearance nor me. I am still young and have the rest of my life ahead of me.

My failed experience with past crushes brought me to this good place. The problem was my shyness. Then I gained the confidence to tell guys I liked them, but I faced rejection and sometimes ruined friendships. I decided that I wouldn’t go out of my way to force a relationship but instead would let it happen naturally. If I was having doubt about whether or not someone liked me back, it was likely because they didn’t. Otherwise, they made their intentions clear. I also have realized that if someone doesn’t care about me, why would I want to be with them? This allowed me to not get hung up on crushes. With this, I am satisfied with my single status, and I know that the future is open to countless possibilities.

I saw social media posts of my friends in relationships and felt that I missed out. I thought, “Why hasn’t this happened to me yet? Am I doing something wrong?” Over time, I realized that everyone lives their life at their own pace. People prioritize different things at different times. It took me so long to realize this, but I’m happy I finally have. I’ve also reached a point where I can feel happy for my friends in relationships. I learned to stop feeling jealous and instead feel excited for my friends who have  significant others who care for them.

I’m prioritizing myself even more. With my current schedule, I don’t even have time for a relationship! So what? I have been blessed with so many great experiences and opportunities this past year. I am happy that I have supportive friends in my life. No matter what your current relationship status is, there are positives to your situation. Self-reflection is crucial in realizing that.

Niharika graduated from the University of Florida with a Bachelor of Science in Computer Science and a minor in Mathematics. She wrote for Her Campus UFL during her time at UF. She also wrote for Her Campus Leeds when she spent her junior year abroad at the University of Leeds in Leeds, England. She tried drinking tea when in England but is still a coffee person at heart. As a Colorado native, Niharika loves hiking, skiing, and mountain biking. In her spare time, she likes to explore her creativity through photography and drawing.