Bigfoot, the Loch Ness Monster, aliens and the G-spot: what do these things have in common? They’re myths! That isn’t to say they aren’t real, but the evidence is debatable.
So what even is the G-spot? The G-spot is an area in the vagina that is defined as having higher sensitivity. It is often described as being located about one centimeter deep on the anterior wall of the vagina, next to the urethra, named after German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg who “discovered” the G-spot. However, I would bet a lot of money that many teenage girls discovered the G-spot before Mr. Gräfenberg.
Sounds simple. How could that be a myth? Well, there is still a lot of debate in the scientific community on whether or not the G-spot exists. Like any myth, you’ve got the skeptics and true believers. One study reported that over 80% of women believed in the existence of a highly sensitive area of the vagina, and over 60% reported having it. Another study evaluating biopsies, surgical specimens and autopsies identified a G-spot in 47.4% of women. Two other studies on nerves found no evidence of a G-spot at all!
What a pickle! Many sexuality experts believe that the G-spot isn’t actually made up of different tissue or more nerve endings than the rest of the vagina, but rather that it is a spot that is found pleasurable due to its proximity to the clitoris. Since the clitoral body is close to the G-spot, this friction could cause heightened pleasure.
So moral of the story is that you might feel that you have a G-spot or you might not. Either way, you’re normal and it is simply a product of everyone’s uniquely wonderful bodies.
If you’re ready to embark on the legendary quest for the elusive G-spot, think of these tips as your rainbow — follow them, and you just might find that pot of gold:
- Search for your G-spot with one or two well-lubricated fingers, placing rhythmic pressure on the anterior wall of the vagina. If you find a pleasurable spot, you can increase speed or change the pressure to find a comfortable sensation. Try moving your fingers like you are motioning for someone to come toward you, bending your finders about halfway.
- Try a sex toy that has a curve created for the G-spot like a curved vibrator, curved dildo or a dual-stimulation rabbit.
- To access the G-spot during penetrative vaginal sex, try positions that put penetration from behind. Creating hip elevation with pillows or positioning can further access the G-spot.
- The cowgirl or reverse cowgirl positions can heighten G-spot stimulation by increasing control over pace and direction.
- Although designed for prostate stimulation, prostate massagers’ shapes and angles also work for G-spot stimulation, so try one out!
- Experiment with shallow vs. deep vaginal stimulation! Some people report their pleasure points to be deeper in the vagina than others.
When you stimulate the G-spot like this, it can result in three types of fluid responses, none of them are signs of better or worse sex, they are just reactions you may want to be aware of.
The first fluid that women may experience is increased vaginal lubrication. The second type is female ejaculate, which is usually around a teaspoon of a milky white liquid that can be released into the urethra. The third type is squirting, an affectionate term for urination during sex. So, if you suddenly feel like you have to pee, you’re normal. However, if squirting isn’t your instinct, that is standard as well, just do not try to force it. Forcing yourself to squirt can create incontinence, so it is not safe or healthy.
At the end of the day, whether the G-spot is a distinct anatomical feature or just a lucky convergence of nerve endings and friction, pleasure is what truly matters. Some may seek it like a treasure hunt, while others may find satisfaction elsewhere — both are completely normal!
So, if you’re on a mission to discover your own pleasure zones, enjoy the adventure, but remember: the real myth is that there’s only one right way to experience pleasure. Your body, your rules.
Happy exploring!