I’m sure we all once had toys on our holiday wish list, and so many of us are at that age where toys once again have us buzzing with excitement. Toy shopping this holiday season can be just as exciting as ten years ago, but nobody prepares you to shop for the X-rated toys. So, as an ex-adult store worker and current sex educator, I’m here to give you the scoop on how to make your adult shopping experience as satisfying as the end result:
1. Don’t buy from non-sex stores
What does that mean? Stores like Target, Amazon, Shein or any store that does not specialize in adult products. Why? They take returns. Which means they often sell products that have been used. You’ll be much better off visiting your local sex store or ordering from a discreet online seller like Adam&Eve.
2. Start smaller than you think
A lot of people overestimate measurements the first time they buy a toy. You’ve gotta work your way up. Just because you like an eight-incher on a live man that doesn’t mean you’ll like it in silicone. Especially when it comes to your caboose, I’m begging you, start any anal with a training kit and lots of lube. Additionally, make sure to start small in the world of BDSM. Maybe try a blindfold and nipple clamps before you invest in your first sex swing. Take your time and enjoy every step in the process to finding pleasure.
3. Know your materials
Unlike food or medicine, there is no board that must verify the safety of sex toys. You can’t trust everything on the shelves. Here are your basics, but I implore you to do more research. Silicone, glass, ABS Plastic and Stainless Steel are nonporous, easy to clean and body-safe. I would recommend quality toys using these materials. Wood, jelly and CyberSkin are not as safe, and I would not recommend buying toys in these materials.
4. Invest in a rechargeable toy
Batteries rattling around in your vibrator make it louder. So, in the beginning, spend a few bucks more to save yourself from the annoyance of a loud vibe.
5. Know your lubes
Water-based lube works with condoms and toys, has easy cleanup and is recommended for most play. Silicone lube breaks condoms and degrades toys. I would honestly only recommend it for unprotected anal or shower sex. Flavored lubes can be fun, but don’t let them near anyone’s lady bits. Glycerin will give you a nasty yeast infection, so anything flavored is a big no for the ladies. Desensitizing lube is dangerous because you don’t know when to stop. Don’t use it. Massage oils are great, but not interchangeable with lube.
6. Clean your toys
You can clean any material I mentioned earlier with warm water and soap. You can wash electronics and vibrators with a damp washcloth or toy cleaning wipe. It’s important to clean your toys to prevent bacteria from growing, even if you’re the only one using them. Allow all your toys to dry thoroughly and store them separately to prevent cross-contamination. Highly recommend bulk storage bags on Amazon!
Now that you’re ready to buy some toys, you can make sure you’re ready to check out an adult store by reading my last article, “Tips and Tricks for Your First Visit to a Sex Shop.”
You’re basically a sex toy pro now! So, use all your new expertise to go try everything you want and have some sexy fun. I hope your “me-time” and “we-time” is a vibe this holiday season and every season after.