How to Get Over a Breakup

A 5 step guide

Being heartbroken can be emotionally draining and take a toll on your mental and physical health. I never understood how people could be so hung up over a relationship until I was in a situation where I felt heartbroken. If you find yourself crying with a tub of ice cream looking back at old texts, this one is for you. 

  1. 1. Accept that it’s over

    It is difficult to let go of a relationship if you still have hope that you two will get back together. Holding onto that hope will make getting over a breakup 10 times harder because you are not letting it go. Once you accept the fact it is done for good, you can accept the reality and move forward.

  2. 2. Cut all ties/memories

    Block, delete and let go. You do not need that person’s number. You do not need to keep those pictures or gifts. Delete it all. You already have memories you can not physically remove from your brain, but the rest, you have control over. This will help the healing process because you will not have access to look back at texts or pictures that will bring pain.

  3. 3. Focus on yourself

    I know this is arguably one of the most cliche lines when it comes to break ups but it is used often for a reason. When you put your energy into focusing on yourself and your goals, you not only begin to think less about your breakup, but also improve your personal well being. It is a win win! Try setting small goals for yourself or working on something you’ve always wanted to do or learn. When you accomplish them, you will feel 10x better!

  4. 4. Surround yourself with friends and family

    It is okay to vent with people about how you feel. Talk about your feelings with people who love and care about you. Spend time with them. The more time you surround yourself with people you love, the less lonely you will feel. Having a strong support system is vital after a breakup that leaves you feeling sad, angry or miserable.

  5. 5. It’s okay to not be okay 

    Cry, scream, yell. It is okay. Do not suppress your feelings because then one day you will explode with emotions. Grieve the loss of the relationship, feel what you need to feel. It is okay. It is validated and understandable. But do not let those emotions consume you for too long. Take a few days to feel sorry for yourself, then get back up and push forward. 

Breakups suck. They feel like the end of the world. But remember everything in life is temporary, just like the emotions you are feeling now. I hope this mini guide can help heal a little of the pain. The most important key to getting over a breakup is time. Time heals all. You got this!