For the longest time, I thought it was rare and kind of weird to masturbate as a girl. I felt like males had a monopoly over it because it was just a thing that was discussed and is socially accepted. But what is the difference between us females and them? We all have needs and urges. It was not until my third year of college that I realized I needed to get a handle on my sexual needs independently and not rely on men. I decided to test the waters by purchasing my first vibrator and it was an idea I was thinking about for a few weeks prior to the purchase. But it was not until two of my friends had the idea of going to a random sex shop one day that I got my first vibrator and had my first official visit to a sex shop.
Honestly, the trip to the sex shop was super fun and my friends made the whole experience comfortable. It is a normal thing to go to a sex shop for whatever reason but it frustrated me that I initially felt outside my comfort zone. I felt awkward asking the manager for the cheapest vibrator (these things are expensive and I am rolling on a college budget). I decided on an internal vibrator that had three different settings and my friends got their own items as well. This whole experience was also a bonding experience with them. After purchasing the vibrator, I contemplated when to use it. I really wanted to use it that same day but I did not have any sexual tendencies or urges. I did not want my first time with it to feel forced or uncomfortable or even rushed for that matter.
The first time I used my vibrator I was so nervous. It was a mix of nerves and excitement which was kind of the same feelings of losing your virginity. I mean I was no stranger to sexual pleasures but I never used something else to pleasure myself. I cleaned the vibrator with soap and water prior to using it and made sure I was comfortable. I can say with absolute confidence and joy that buying a vibrator was one of the best purchases I have made in the last few months. It got the job done, it felt natural so I do not know why I was so worried, and I definitely recommend it to everyone. It is our right as human beings to have these pleasures, whether it be with someone else or with yourself. The next morning I felt happier, lighter, and just less stressed. There is a great deal of research that proves orgasming reduces stress, helps clear the mind, and it is just good for your health in general. It honestly also improves your sex self with other people.
