In college, fall quarter equates to a flock of fresh faces at oneâs disposal for romancing into a relationship by cuffing season. But, this set-up also means barreling headfirst towards a month-long winter break. All of these on-campus couples will soon be forced apart for an extended period of time (for the first time) in their newly established relationships. Thus, the inevitable question begins creeping its way into every waking thought and stress-induced nightmareâŠWill the relationships last long distance?
Speaking from experience, the first stretch of long distance is definitely the most difficult, but there are plenty of ways to combat relationship anxiety without breaking the bank for cross-country flights or losing countless hours of sleep over repeated 4AM FaceTimes.
- Keep Dating (No, seriously)
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Even though Covid-19âs upcoming third birthday is more of a devastating slap-in-the-face than a happy thought, those months of Zoom calls and isolated quarantining gave us numerous date-night options to boost morale in long-distance relationships.Â
Schedule weekly date-nights to maintain the romance in your life, perhaps starting with Teleparty movie marathons, Club Penguin meet-ups at the jazzy Pizza Parlor or couplesâ cooking extravaganzas (pick out a recipe that both of you will make over FaceTime/Zoom, then converse as you cook and eat the meal).
- communicate ~effectively~
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COMMUNICATION IS KEY! (Sorry, I didn’t mean to yell at you there, but I really needed to get my point across.)
As a recent (informal) survey of students, family and friends revealed, relationships frequently falter from a lack of communication between partners. So, long-distance couples should handle such matters all the more seriously on account of being doubly impeded by physical separation.
Keep in mind your partnerâs love languages, vocalize your insecurities/needs for reassurance and most importantlyâbe honest about your schedule. The holiday season is truly the busiest time of year, so just tell your S.O. when youâll be away from the phone for a while. Donât leave them hanging if you expect the same courtesy in return!
- Random acts of thoughtfulness
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Ladies and gentlemen, itâs time to unleash a sugar rush of sweetness SO powerful that your S.O. is sent to the dentist with several cavities.
Everyone loveâs feeling loved, but more than that, everyone loves being reminded that they are loved. Remind your partner by sending goodnight/good-morning texts, handwritten love letters/postcards or bouquets of their favorite flowers (I swear DoorDash has a never ending promo for flower delivery, so go check that out). Maybe even post a favorite picture of you two together with a sweet caption for them to see.Â
All in all, loving someone costs absolutely nothing, so donât be afraid to show your love for the one person that makes you feel like no otherâthey at least deserve that much!
- don’t hyper-focus on the relationship
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Hi. Itâs me! Iâm the problem, itâs me! In case you wanted to send a gift, I recently appointed myself to the position of #1 Overthinker-in-Relationships for the 21st year in a row! Yay!
Anyways, another subtle culprit gunning to sabotage your relationship is the inevitable act of overthinking, but trust me, you donât need to stress. Trust in your partner, trust in the love/bond you share and trust that if youâre meant to beâyouâll be! All of this circles back to communication (funny how that works, huh?), remember that the distance is temporary and then turn your focus towards celebrating the holidays with family.Â
If thereâs no reason to overthink, DONâT DO IT. Youâll only hinder your own happiness and peace of mind in the end.
- Plan for the future
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Winter break may feel longer than the wait between seasons of Stranger Things when youâre separated from a new S.O., but you can combat the clockâs crawling pace by setting plans for future dates at the beginning of winter quarter. Youâll forget all about the distance when youâre dreaming up date-nights at the Getty, Santa Monica Pier and UCLA sporting events (hey, itâs always fun to rep our school!).Â
In my opinion, excitement for the future trumps stress about the present and past. Simply keep in mind that you do in fact have a future to look forward to with your partner.
Tackling long-distance relationships reminds me of a certain Baby Yoda meme that states, âWhen someone tells me itâs easy peasy lemon squeezy, but for me itâs always stressy, depressy, lemon zesty.â Donât let something as frivolous as distance get in the way of enjoying the loving relationship youâve built with your partner in the past few months (or years, this advice can apply to couples of all circumstances).Â
Enjoy your hard-earned break away from schoolwork and take advantage of the cheery holiday season at handâyour partner will be waiting with open arms when you finally return. Wishing you lots of love this holiday season!