Alright ladies, there is never a more perfect time than now (because there’s never a “right time” for anything, but that’s a whole other story) to make every move a power move and wake up each morning knowing you’re a badass. Attitude makes or breaks your life, and whether you like it or not, every bit of life is what you make of it, baby! Let yourself become the confident, strong, total package you are with a few of these tips and tricks.
- Invest in Yourself
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At the end of the day, all you have is yourself, so you might as well live with the best version of yourself. Take the time to sit down and focus on you, and only you. Start valuing your time and energy. In the wise words of Post Malone, “my time is expensive.” Don’t waste your time on people or things that don’t bring you as much joy as puppies do; you don’t deserve negative, toxic people in your life, so do everyone a favor and let those losers go. Instead, put your energy towards surrounding yourself with some damn good people! It has been shown that you become most like the three people you are around the most, so make sure your friends mirror your values and ideals. These people should make you feel inspired and on top of the world.
Set goals for yourself—if you don’t have a goal, then what are you working towards? The same habits lead to the same outcomes; staying complacent won’t help you live your dream life (we all have one, don’t lie to me, girl). Switch your unhealthy habits—and yes, scrolling through TikTok at 3am is one of them—for positive, beneficial ones! Try listening to an empowering podcast and get educated! Investing in yourself pays off the best.
- Be Confident
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Okay, this is where it gets real. Confidence is everything, and I mean everything. But, let’s backtrack a little bit and get on the same page of what being confident actually means. The whole idea isn’t saying “everyone will like me,” but rather saying “I’ll be okay if not everyone does.” Not everyone in the world is going to like you, so it just makes confidence that much more important! Not everyone is going to be your cup of tea, and you are not going to be everyone else’s. Being confident and being vain are two completely different things. People who are vain are obsessed with the number of likes they get on their latest Instagram selfie and always have to be the star of the show in some capacity. If you struggle with self-confidence, fake it ’til ya make it, baby! Look in the mirror and tell yourself you’re beautiful, whether you believe it or not. The more you say something, the more you start to believe it—consistency is key. When you’re confident, you’re more approachable and attractive because you send out positive vibes! I say that’s a win-win—growing self-confidence and more friends? Count me in. If that’s not your style, put some pep in your step! Know you are doing your best and are working towards a better you; you should be hella proud of yourself.
Personally, I love making a power playlist when I’m in need of a confidence boost; add songs that make you feel like a boss babe and remind you that you’re the sh*t. Lastly, try improving your posture. Body language is usually the thing we notice first about a person. If your shoulders are back, you’re not slouching and your eyes are focused, you’re instantly going to feel better about yourself… trust me on this one.
- Dress for Success
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It’s really as simple as that. The more you dress up, the more put together and important you feel! I’m not saying you have to wear a blazer and heels everyday, but start accessorizing! Experiment with fashion! Layer pieces! Do the most!
- Stop Talking & Start Doing
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If you really want to change your life, you’re going to have to take action at one point or another, so why not start now? Talk is cheap. Whether you want to start making money moves or just power moves in general, it’s now or never to make a move on it, because no one is guaranteed tomorrow. You are in charge of your life and your destiny; it’s not your fault that you were born poor, but it’s your fault if you die poor, so get on that grind! Even one itty-bitty change can lead you one step further in the right direction to achieve your goals. If you’re scared to make that change, hear me out. We can not let fear rule our lives, manifest that sh*t! The Law of Attraction is real, and it’s here to stay. You get what you focus on. Speak it into existence and notice how powerful your words can be. If you believe you will achieve something, chances are you will—it’s all about attitude. It’s all coming full circle here, did ya notice?
- Have a Role Model
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Having someone to look up to and model your life after is a complete gamechanger (almost like a shortcut to your success). Seeing someone with the life you want makes you that much more inspired and willing to put in the work to get there. If you want to go the extra mile, get a mentor! Find someone you can talk to about your dream, and have them help you get there. Good mentors love to see other people achieve their dreams alongside them.
- Don’t Compare Yourself
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I saved the best (and most important) tip for last. I know this is easier said than done, but self-deprecating yourself is not the way to live a thriving life. I will say this once, and only once: your Chapter 1 may be someone else’s Chapter 24, so stop! Stop comparing yourself! Comparison is the thief of happiness.
Free yourself from the chains of social media by unfollowing people that make you feel bad about yourself. This could be supermodels or even that bitchy know-it-all girl from high school—whoever it may be. Only let good vibes in your presence, darling. It doesn’t have to be personal, you just have to put yourself first. Celebrity culture has exploded in the past decade, but they are just as human as we are, and don’t forget that! You are as human as Béyonce!
Likes and comments on social media shouldn’t validate your happiness. So many girls fake it on Instagram for the “aesthetic,” but live miserable lives and play mind games with themselves on the daily. You don’t have to post content in order to be content. Just because someone is happy on the Internet, doesn’t mean they’re happy in real life.
Hopefully, I’ve inspired you to be a blackbelt badass. The bottom line here is this: live your best life the best way you know how to. However you do you, make sure you do it with passion and a smile.