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Cringe Culture is Dead—Long Live Being Embarrassingly Yourself

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Kashvi Arya Student Contributor, University of Massachusetts - Amherst
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at U Mass Amherst chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.

There was a time—not that long ago—when posting literally anything online required a full psychological evaluation. You’d type out a caption, delete it, rewrite it, add a self-deprecating joke that suddenly felt too dark, delete that, then finally hit post and immediately throw your phone halfway across the room like it might explode.

Because what if someone thought you were…cringe?

For years, “cringe” wasn’t just a word. It was a social death sentence. A vague but powerful accusation that you had somehow tried too hard, cared too much, or—worst of all—been too completely sincere on the Internet.

But things are different now.

Somewhere between late-night doomscrolling and niche Internet microtrends, cringe culture started to lose its grip. And in its place, something way more chaotic (and honestly, way more fun) showed up; people just…being themselves. Loudly. Publicly. Unapologetically.

the death of playing it cool

The old Internet rulebook was quite straightforward: never let them know you care. You could like something, sure—but only with a layer of irony. You could post a selfie—but make sure that the caption was detached enough that no one could accuse you of actually trying.

It was all very “I don’t even want to be here,” even though we were all very much there, refreshing our feeds every five minutes.

And it was exhausting.

At some point, people got tired of performing nonchalance like it was a full-time job. Teenagers, in particular, have described cringe culture as “paralyzing,” per a New York Times article. Pretending not to care takes effort. You have to anticipate judgment before it even happens. You have to shrink your excitement into something more “acceptable.” You have to constantly edit yourself into someone cooler, quieter, and less…you.

And for what? A couple of likes and the illusion of being unbothered?

Enter: try-hard energy

What’s replacing all of that is something that would’ve been absolutely eviscerated a few years ago: people who are visibly and boldly into things.

Not in a curated, aesthetic, I-woke-up-like-this way. Not in a “this is ironically funny” way. Just in an honest way.

People are posting their interests without disclaimers. They’re dressing how they want without preemptively apologizing for it to strangers they don’t even know. They’re being dramatic, emotional, enthusiastic, and occasionally a little unhinged online—and hey, instead of getting collectively side-eyed, they’re finding their people.

And honestly? It’s kind of refreshing.

There’s something comforting about watching someone commit fully to whatever they love, whether that’s a hyper-specific fandom, a chaotic outfit, or a niche hobby that makes zero sense to anyone else. One of my favorite trends is Disneybounding—people styling everyday outfits inspired by Disney characters. It’s cute, quirky, and genuinely joyful. It feels real in a way that perfectly curated lifestyles never do.

wHY “CRINGE” WAS ALWAYS A SCAM

If you think about it for more than two seconds, “cringe” has always been a moving target. The rules were never clear, and they changed constantly. One day something was funny; the next, it was embarrassing. One person’s confidence was another person’s secondhand humiliation.

Cringe culture didn’t just exist to make fun of people—it kept people in check. To make sure no one got too loud, too weird, too emotional, too visible. It rewarded blending in and punished standing out.

But the problem is, being a person is inherently a little cringe. Caring deeply is cringe. Getting excited is cringe. Trying something new and not being immediately good at it? Extremely cringe.

So if avoiding cringe means avoiding all of that…what’s left?

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the end of cringe (or at least its power)

Cringe culture isn’t completely gone. People still judge. The Internet is still…well, the Internet.

But it doesn’t hit the same way anymore.

Most people are opting out of the constant self-surveillance. More people are realizing that being perceived as “cringe” is a lot less painful than constantly editing yourself into something smaller, quieter, and safer.

And once enough people stop playing the game, the game stops working.

So laugh too loud. Post the thing without overthinking it for three hours. Be openly obsessed with whatever you’re into right now. Wear something that only makes sense to you. Say what you actually mean without cushioning it in layers of irony.

Will someone, somewhere, still think it’s cringe? Probably.

But they were going to think something was cringe anyway. That was never really avoidable.

The difference now is that fewer people care.

And that’s kind of the whole point.

Because the real freedom isn’t becoming effortlessly cool. It’s realizing you don’t have to be.

Cringe culture is dead. And I’m happy for it.

Long live being embarrassingly yourself.

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Kashvi Arya

U Mass Amherst '29

Hi! I'm Kashvi Arya, a freshman at UMass Amherst pursuing a double major in Journalism (with a concentration in Public Relations) and Communications. I have a love for storytelling and self-expression and writing that actually feels like something. I’m especially interested in how we present ourselves online—somewhere between curated and completely unfiltered—and I tend to write about identity, media, and the things we’re all quietly overthinking. In my free time, I enjoy writing poetry (Instagram : @the_thought_archivist), reading books, and watching sitcoms.