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Things I Didn’t Realize Changed About Me After High School

Lindsay Perez Garcia Student Contributor, University of Connecticut
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at U Conn chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.

High school me and college me are pretty similar, but in a lot of subtle ways, I’ve changed more than I ever expected. It wasn’t one big moment that made me different; instead, it happened slowly over time. At first, I didn’t really notice it, but as I’ve gotten more used to college, I’ve started to realize that my mindset, habits, and even the way I approach everyday situations have shifted. These changes might not seem major, but they’ve made a bigger impact on me than I thought.

putting more effort into getting ready

One subtle way I’ve changed since high school is how much effort I put into getting ready for the day. Back then, I honestly didn’t care that much and would just throw something on without thinking twice. Now, I’ve realized that when I actually take the time to get ready, it actually changes how I feel for the rest of the day. It’s not even about trying to impress anyone else; it’s more about feeling put together and confident in myself. Even on days when I don’t feel like it, putting in a little extra effort can make a big difference in my mood and motivation. I’ve also noticed that it helps me feel more prepared to take on the day, even if I just have classes or simple plans. It’s become a small routine that makes a bigger difference than I expected. 

Making an effort to be more active

Another way I’ve subtly changed is by trying to be more active. In high school, it wasn’t really something I thought about, but now I make more of an effort to go on walks or just get outside when I can. I’m definitely not always consistent, and there are times when I fall out of routine, especially when things get busy. Still, I’ve noticed that even small things like going for a walk can help me clear my head and feel a little more refreshed. It’s something I’m still working on, but I’ve become more aware of how important it is for both my physical and mental well-being. Even just stepping outside for a little bit can reset my mindset in a way I didn’t really appreciate before. It’s become less about “working out” and more about just taking care of myself in small ways. 

Appreciating my alone time more

I’ve also started to appreciate my alone time a lot more. Back home, there was always someone around, so I never really thought much about having time to myself. Now that I’m living with just one other person, I’ve realized how much I actually enjoy the quiet. Whether I’m doing homework, relaxing, or just taking a break, having that time alone helps me recharge. I think I’ve always liked being by myself, but now I understand how important it is for me to have that balance between social time and time on my own. It gives me space to reset and slow down, especially when assignments are piling up or just when I’m feeling overwhelmed. Those quiet moments honestly become something I look forward to.

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Caring less about what people think

Another way I’ve changed is that I don’t care as much about what other people think. In high school, I feel like I was more aware of how things came across to others and would sometimes overthink small things, like what I said, how I acted, or even how I was being perceived in everyday situations. I would replay interactions in my head and worry about things that, in reality, probably didn’t matter that much. Now, I’ve realized that most people are focused on themselves and their own lives, and it’s not worth stressing over every little detail or moment. I still care, of course, but not to the same extent, and I don’t let these things control how I act anymore. I’ve become more comfortable just being myself in different situations, whether I’m around people I know well or people I’m just meeting, and that shift has made me feel a lot more confident and relaxed overall. 

Being more independent

I’ve also become more independent in a way I didn’t really notice at first. Being in college has forced me to figure things out on my own, whether it’s managing my time, staying on top of schoolwork, or handling everyday responsibilities that I didn’t really think about before. In high school, there was a lot more structure in place, and I relied more on the people around me, whether it was family, teachers, or a set routine, but now I’ve had to take more responsibility for myself and my own schedule. It wasn’t something that happened overnight, and there are still times when I feel a bit overwhelmed or unsure, but over time, I’ve learned how to handle things better and trust myself more in the process. This change has made me more confident in my ability to manage things on my own, even when things start to pile up.

Looking back, none of these changes feel huge on their own, but together they’ve shaped how I go about my everyday life now compared to high school. I didn’t really notice them happening in the moment, but over time, I’ve realized I’ve grown in a lot of subtle ways. Even though I’m still the same person in many ways, these small shifts have made a big difference in how I see myself and my day-to-day life. 

Lindsay Perez Garcia is a sophomore Biological Sciences Major at the University of Connecticut. She's a first generation college student from New Jersey.