17th Edition
The end of the semester has quickly approached us, with everyone having finals and the holidays going on, do not worry, we have not forgotten to answer your questions! Keep asking her over the long break and have a happy holiday season! See you next semester! – the girls at Her Campus TX State.
“How are you guys dealing with seasonal depression?”
Hey girl, I’m also currently trying to thrive despite the seasonal depression creeping up on me. Sometimes it can feel like you’re lonelier or more melancholy during this time, however there are plenty of habits to combat this. Self-care is so important during this time to keep your mental health and overall wellness in check. It’s hard to hit a moving target ;). Try going on daily walks, meditating in the morning or even journaling your thoughts at the end of the night. But most importantly let your loved ones know how you’re feeling. Good company always reminds me that I’m never alone when I’m feeling off and motivates me to keep going. Good luck girl, you’ll get through this.
-Love, Elise Ramos, HC Writer
“I’ve been struggling as the semester is coming to an end. I’ve become a little unmotivated to go to classes. Plus, daylight savings makes my routine so repetitive.”
Hey girl, it makes total sense that you’re feeling drained. It’s the end of the semester, and now it’s getting dark outside earlier. This new change in routine can really mess with your energy. A lot of people hit that, “why am I even doing this?” wall around now. When the days get shorter, it’s normal for motivation to dip because your brain basically thinks it’s bedtime by late afternoon. One thing that can help is adding a small routine break, like studying somewhere different or giving yourself something to look forward to after class. Like a reward system to motivate you to go to class. It doesn’t fix everything, but it can break that repetitive loop a little bit. And honestly, just getting through this stretch is an accomplishment on its own, as we are almost done for this semester. Good luck!!
-Zoie Tidmore, Editor
“How do I ask for a raise respectfully?”
Hey friend. I was in this position not too long ago, and it is sooo nerve-racking—especially if you’re already intimidated by your boss (which I definitely am). Asking for a raise, whether you’re in a professional setting or at a minimum-wage retail job, is scary. Let me give you a piece of advice my dad gave me when I was freaking out about asking for a one-dollar raise: think of this as practice. You have to learn how to advocate for yourself. At the end of the day, you’re a store associate asking for a dollar. It’s not the end of the world. Not to bring this back to the patriarchy, but here I go. Men do this easily, without even worrying—because men know they have worth. Women often undervalue themselves. So, channel that anxious energy into anger. Picture the most incompetent man at your job… and remember he’s probably making two dollars more than you.
Speak up!! – Cara Cervenka, Editor-in-chief
“How do I get better at putting myself out there?”
First of all, I’m really proud of you for even asking this because that IS putting yourself out there. Most people never say it out loud. Getting better at it doesn’t happen in one big scary moment. It’s honestly a bunch of tiny choices that slowly build your confidence. Start with small things that feel manageable: compliment someone in class, say yes to a coffee invite, apply for that org you’ve been eyeing, or post that picture you actually like instead of overthinking it. Also, remind yourself that people aren’t paying as much attention as you think. Everyone’s too busy worrying about themselves. When you realize that, it’s so much easier to just do your own thing. And the biggest thing? Don’t wait to feel 100% ready. You won’t. No one does. You have to let yourself show up even when you’re a little nervous. That’s where the growth is. Be gentle with yourself, celebrate the small wins, and remember, you deserve to take up space. You’ve got this!
-Piscis Martinez, Editor
He wanted me first so WHY can’t I get over him?
That’s so typical, isn’t it? Guys chasing after you, convincing you they’re in love, and then leaving you in the dust. It’s frustrating, confusing, and oh so easy to ruminate over. Really, why can’t you get over him?
That’s how love bombing works.
You’re shown this picture-perfect guy – obsessed with you, proud of you, and promising you forever. It’s no wonder you’re stuck on him. He was your Prince Charming! Facade or not, it’s flattering to receive this kind of treatment and having the rug pulled out from under you is a major adjustment. You’re questioning yourself, your lived experience, and putting yourself down for “falling for it.” As disappointing as it is, you’re better off without a guy like that. Grieve the fantasy all you want – it’s not your fault for believing what he said. It’s not your fault he lied! Eventually, it’ll be something you laugh about – the sheer cowardice it takes for someone to treat you like this.
Good luck! – Leo Calderon, HC Writer