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TX State | Life > Experiences

ASK HER (Again)

Courtney Buck Student Contributor, Texas State University
Victoria Sanchez Student Contributor, Texas State University
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Grace Neves Student Contributor, Texas State University
Elise Ramos Student Contributor, Texas State University
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at TX State chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.

18th Edition

Ask Her is back for the spring semester, and we are so excited to get back into the swing of things. We’re starting off this new year by NOT talking about men, so instead, we’re talking about roommates and friendship dilemmas and putting yourself out there. Tune in next week for our special edition Valentine’s edition! Submit questions for us to answer here!

“I love all of my roommates, but two of them want to room without my other roommate next year. it’s going to be such an awaited conversation
 But I need roommates.”

Hey girl, these types of conversations are never ones that anyone wants to participate in, but if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that your time and honesty are what matter the most in this situation. Having this conversation sooner rather than later gives your ‘left out’ roommate the time they need to find another place to live without feeling rushed. Be honest and give them the space to say how they feel. I won’t lie, it might be awkward, and it might be hard on them too, but I really believe honesty is the best policy in situations like this. This conversation doesn’t have to involve all four of you. A one-on-one talk might actually be more respectful and less overwhelming. You might want to explore your options as well. You will still find roommates regardless of whether you stay with your current ones or not. Maybe you’ll want to go with the “left out” friend, or maybe you won’t. I’m not sure about the whole situation but try handling the situation with compassion for your friend and be honest and vulnerable with them.

-Victoria Sanchez, HC Contributor

“I have a friend who I constantly invite out, however they are always canceling or saying no. They are so supportive, however It feels as if we are so distant so, I don’t really know how to repair our friendship to what it was before or if there are any steps to help rebuild it even though I know they are busy it just feels as if I’m an inconvenience.”

Hi chicky! I totally understand this. It can be so frustrating to feel like the only person in the friendship who is making all the effort. It leads to moments where we feel like an inconvenience. The first thing I would suggest is to put yourself in their shoes; why are they cancelling? Are they busy with school or work? Are you inviting them to do things they don’t like? Sometimes it can be easier to understand why you are feeling distant when you think about the nuances. Try inviting them to something you know they’d want to do and see what happens. If they are supportive of you, I’m sure they would make it known they’d want to be there. If that’s not the case, sometimes friends just grow into different people and go down different paths. I know it can feel impossible to find friends nowadays. But there are so many people out there that match your freak perfectly!

-Grace Neves, HC Contributor

“I’ve been struggling with social shyness and anxiety. How do I get over this? I used to be very extroverted, but now I avoid putting myself out there, knowing this is what makes me feel lonely in the end. How do I change this?”

Hey girl, I absolutely understand where you’re coming from. I struggled with a lot of social anxiety my freshman year. The first thing I thought about was, “Are these really situations I enjoy being in?” Most of the time, they weren’t. I actually felt anxious because I didn’t want to party or go out, and being in uncomfortable situations wasn’t the ideal way to spend my Saturday night. Second, if I didn’t have justified anxiety, I would always reach out to a friend to join me at events. Going with a friend eliminates the possibility that you may not know everyone and, most importantly, makes everything 100x more. You can get ready together, take pics and even split an Uber ;). Third, reflect and reach out. At the end of the day, growing is uncomfortable; we can’t grow without change. However, shifting your perspective from ‘scary change’ to ‘opportunity’ makes the difference. On weekends when I feel alone, I go on solo dates because there’s no pressure, but I’m still putting myself out there (Froyo, movies, cafes, you name it). Or I reach out to a friend, call a family member or journal. Bottled-up feelings are never good and getting them out of your head can calm the situation and even help you navigate how and why you feel a certain way. Don’t be afraid to take a risk. And when you do, take a breath and go easy on yourself.

-Elise Ramos, Senior Editor

Courtney Buck

TX State '27

Courtney Buck is the section editor at the Her Campus at Texas State chapter. She oversees the section’s direction, assigns ideas to writers, and ensures every piece offers responsible, supportive guidance to readers. She writes biweekly articles for Her Campus, collaborating closely with her team to develop ideas, conducting thorough research, and self‑editing her work to ensure clarity and quality. She enjoys writing original content, specifically personal essays and relatable pieces that reflect real student experiences to her own.

Outside of Her Campus, Courtney is a Mass Communication major at Texas State University with a minor in Psychology. She previously reported for KTSW 89.9 as a News and Culture Reporter and has completed a short internship with Swoon Memorial in Houston the past summer.

She enjoys doing her nails and journaling about her feelings as it makes her feel more grounded in her everyday life. She loves staying busy and productive so if her schedule is free, you can find her at the gym. She has big dreams and aspirations for her life, so although she doesn’t know exactly where she’s headed yet, she will be somewhere in the future!
Victoria Sanchez

TX State '26

Victoria Sanchez is a third semester writer for Her Campus at Texas State University chapter. She is passionate about personal essays and culture.

Beyond Her Campus, Victoria is majoring in Natural Resources & Environmental Studies with a minor in Biology. She has interned at Southwest Conservation Corps and Rocky Mountain Conservation Corps working in remote wilderness areas with the USFS and NPS.

Outside of school and work, Victoria enjoys all things that have to do with the outdoors and reading a new fantasy series.
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Grace Neves

TX State '28

Grace Neves is a writer for Her Campus media at Texas State University. She contributes bi-weekly articles to the magazine with topics ranging from current trends to current events. She enjoys interviewing the public and people of interest to get a wide array of voices on projects.

Outside of Her Campus Grace is a sophomore majoring in Mass Communication and Journalism. She is an involved student on campus through varying clubs as well as being employed through campus housing. She is an aspiring television personality.

When not at school she enjoys creating art through watercolor, sewing, and crochet. She also likes to read and is inspired by many comics and satirical writers. Her favorite book is “Cat’s Cradle” by Kurt Vonnegut. She is a low-experience traveler and has visited a total of 7 out of 50 states.

Check out more of Grace’s work on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/grace-neves-a63133327/.
Elise Ramos

TX State '28

Elise is a Senior Editor for HerCampus at Texas State University, where she helps lead the editorial team in producing high-quality written content. She oversees six writers, ensuring clarity, accuracy, and consistency across all publications.

Beyond HerCampus, Elise publishes her writing on her personal blog, The Older Sister Diaries. She is also involved with LEWK Magazine, where she curates and styles outfits for models in alignment with each show’s theme and creative vision. Additionally, Elise works as a writing consultant at the University Writing Center, providing one-on-one and small-group support to undergraduate and graduate students across disciplines. In this role, she offers constructive feedback on organization, clarity, argumentation, and academic conventions.

Elise is currently a sophomore majoring in English with a minor in Physician Assistant Studies.

In her free time, Elise enjoys expressing her creativity through crochet, painting, and drawing, as well as planning meaningful hangouts with friends. She adores slow mornings, stray cats, and lavender matcha and would gladly accept the chance to be a teenager in the year 2000.

Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/eliseram
Instagram: elisecovr