How to: Survive a Breakup
Breakups can be tough, but I’m sure you already know this. The goal of this post is to help you realize the world is not ending. If you are the friend of someone going through a breakup, maybe this article can give you ideas to help your discouraged friend. Either way, cheer up, buttercup, because life will go on.
I. THREE NECESSARY STEPS
A. Block content on social media. Whether this is by limiting their newsfeed content, simply deleting/unfollowing, or actually blocking the individual, this step is essential. The reason why this step is important is simple: you want to avoid frequently seeing the person when you are in the process of getting over him/her. To be bombarded with their selfies or status updates could be irritating.
B. Limit communication. Depending on the severity and which side of the break up you are on this step can be difficult. For example, if the breakup ended terribly then this will be effortless for you. However, if you were broken up with and you are distraught about the circumstances, this step could be hard. You might be tempted to reach out and contact the other person but this is a bad idea. You are not helping yourself “recover” if you cannot avoid the person. I suggest deleting the contact or changing his/her name in your contacts (the thumbs down emoji could be sufficient).
C. It is important to spend time with family and friends. Scheduling lunch with a close friend will help you vent and will keep you occupied so you do not feel alone.
II. THREE WAYS A BREAKUP WILL IMPROVE YOU
A. You may realize the person was persistently clingy and/or had trust issues. Being clingy prohibits you from doing things you enjoy, and having trust issues without validation can become a permanent problem. Relationships revolve around trust and without trust, it can be difficult to stay.
B. Finding happiness in other things, verses solely in your relationship will help you to appreciate more things life has to offer. You may have more time to spend with your friends, or more time to enjoy to yourself. Try to find sources of happiness that will last a lifetime.
C. A breakup can have a positive affect on you if the person constantly brought you down by mentally, physically or emotionally abusing you. Not having them in your life can drastically change things for the better. NOTE: If you would like to talk to an advocate here is The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
III. THREE COMFORTING FOODS
A. This is not a silly category because food can be comforting and it is okay to indulge… especially if you are sad.
B. Of course there are several other food options, but these are classic favorites:
1.) Doughnut(s): preferably fresh from Krispy Kreme
2.) Oreo(s)
3.) Chick-fil-A: If you are curious why this restaurant made the list, it is because the food is delicious and there is a satisfying assortment of sweet and salty food. If that is not enough, the employees are amazingly kind and their politeness should brighten your day!