I am one of those traditional girls who believe that a guy asking a girl out on a date is the way it should be. However, I, like many other girls in college, find myself waiting around for Mr. Right to approach me. I meet guys and while I may find them dateable, I just sit and wait for them to pursue me. But why do we torture ourselves by waiting it out and praying it will happen? It just doesn’t make sense that brilliant and beautiful women are waiting around for a man to get the courage to ask us out when we can’t even muster up the guts to do it ourselves. My new resolution is to go after what I want no matter what. These tips I learned from a few guys will help you on your quest to getting a date with the man of your dreams.
1. Confidence is Key
Your first step is to have confidence in yourself. Yes, it’s not always an easy task, but it’s easy to fake.Â
“I think being confident is a huge turn-on,” environmental science senior Arturo Torres said.
It’s a simple matter of holding your head a little higher than usual and having a little faith in yourself. Guys find confidence in a girl attractive, and it gets just as much attention as any physical trait. What better way to show off your confidence than to approach the guy you’ve been crushing on and ask him out on a date?
“[I] thought it was really cool that I didn’t have to be the one to make the first move,” Kinesiology freshman Austin Davis said of being asked out.This first step of having the confidence to even approach him is a great way to make the first move and will be something he remembers.
2. Show Off Your Personality
Now that you have the confidence to walk up to the guy you like, it’s time to show him exactly what you’re all about.
“[Most guys like]…girls that have a good sense of humor and aren’t dumb as rocks,” Davis said.
Of course this doesn’t mean opening up the conversation with definitions of polymers and calculus equations. Instead, try discussing something you’ve recently heard about on the news, or important topics you know he might be interested in. A great example would be sports-related topics such as “Did you check out the Spurs game last night?” To show off your humor, you could always open up with a funny joke you recently heard. Whatever it is you decide to use to start the conversation, make sure to keep it casual and fun to take the pressure off the whole situation.
3. Interesting Date Suggestions
A guy would not be into the simple dates like dinner and the movies. He’s probably been on so many of those that they aren’t even fun anymore. Why not try something new and exciting?
“Maybe going to the river or lake would be fun,” economics freshman Dylan Salinas said.
Dates like actually watching a sports game and anything outdoors will be a nice change from sitting inside a dark movie theater, not saying a world. Pretty much anything outside the norm is good and shows the guy just how unique you are.
4. Don’t Let Rejection Break You
Even if you are giving it your all there is always the chance that the guy will say no. We’ve have probably felt a lot like the main character from He’s Just Not That Into You after rejection. But don’t let it break you down. If you’ve learned anything from this, you’ll see how confident you are, what a great personality you have, and how unique you are so there’s no point in letting it all go to waste.
Torres said to not worry about being rejected. “He is the idiot that is missing out on her,” he said.
The old saying about a million fish in the sea is true. If after showing off all your awesomeness the guy turns you down, just walk away with your head held high knowing exactly what he’s missing out on.
In the moment it can be hard to remember all or any of these tips, but just remember that you are amazing and that you gave it your all. I know that the next time I’m interested in a guy, I won’t sit back and relax but instead go after what I want. After all, we expect guys to do this all the time, so we should try our hand at it to see where it takes us.
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He’s Just Not That Into YouÂ